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Nervous Jitters from CA mom

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  • porcupine98porcupine98 Registered User Posts: 1,391 Senior Member
    edited January 26
    @SAY - It's January 26 already. How many of those schools -- if any -- are still taking applications?

    I think this horse has been beaten to death, but as the OP already knows, current options are pretty much limited to what's on this list: http:/ /www.collegesimply.com /guides/application-deadlines/.
  • AboutTheSameAboutTheSame Registered User Posts: 2,468 Senior Member
    Snaps to @deb922 and @SAY. I have nothing to add except my best wishes for your son. Frankly, you all sound prepared for any result.
  • SAYSAY Registered User Posts: 744 Member
    I was just listing better matches. As you say the ship has sailed for this year.
  • porcupine98porcupine98 Registered User Posts: 1,391 Senior Member
    They were good suggestions, certainly.
  • CheeringsectionCheeringsection Registered User Posts: 1,796 Senior Member
    OP I too had jitters throughout my DS's senior year. There were so many unknowns and too many lasts to experience. All I can say is that once his plans were made and I could begin planning for a particular school, and actually "seeing" him there a lot of those jitters went away. He picked his school for good reasons so that worry was completely gone. He was getting excited about going so those worries were gone as well. Now that we are through the first semester I can honestly say that yes it was hard to see him go but when he is back he is still my charming son and we will all be okay. I wish you and your family all the best and highly recommend you join the Parents of 2017 thread. I think you will find plenty of the commiserating you were hoping for there.
  • MYOS1634MYOS1634 Registered User Posts: 29,286 Senior Member
    Any update?
  • MassDaD68MassDaD68 Registered User Posts: 1,254 Senior Member
    Reading through this thread really hits home for me and my son. The posters are so right about there being so many fabulously smart kids out there with top grades and top SAT scores. It was really a shock to me to find out that what was considered a fantastic GPA when I was in school is now just average when one is looking for Merit aid.

    I will second all the comments about picking an acceptance and financial safety. A school he is a shoe in to get in and afford. Will it be a school like a CC he feels is beneath him? Sure. But welcome to the reality check. If that is the only school that took him then there you go. Maybe your not the hot shot you think you were. That is coming from a Dad with a 4.0GPA student as well. I tell my son now, guess what? Everyone has a 4.0 GPA, your not special so get over it!.
  • doschicosdoschicos Registered User Posts: 12,087 Senior Member
    @MassDaD68 Part of the issue is grade inflation, too. Back in my day, 4.0 was the very highest one could get and rarely attained. At least that's my excuse for my GPA back in the day. ;)
  • doschicosdoschicos Registered User Posts: 12,087 Senior Member
    That's my reality, @intparent, but I'm still living in a state of denial. Shhh, don't tell my kids. :D
  • jonrijonri Registered User Posts: 6,775 Senior Member
    edited February 13
    Like everyone else in this thread, I wish the OP's S good luck. UChicago has posted that ED II decisions will be released Feb 15, so he'll have some results soon.

    It is hard though to read someone who seems incredibly unrealistic about college admissions. Williams a match?!! On top of everything else, Williams is one of those colleges that fills almost half of its class in the early round. That makes it very unwise to try to figure out "reach," "match," or safety from the OVERALL stats. Her S's math score is well below the median math score of those accepted early to Williams. http://communications.williams.edu/news-releases/12_12_2016_earlydecision/ I'm not saying that the OP's S won't get in--just that IMO it's a reach, not a match.

    Lets hope though that the news is good on Wednesday and her S's college search is done.
  • williams2021williams2021 Registered User Posts: 110 Junior Member
    edited February 13
    @jonri people think LACs are easy to get in due to higher acceptance rate, which is unfortunate since the kids that apply usually want to go to a small, isolated school.
  • MYOS1634MYOS1634 Registered User Posts: 29,286 Senior Member
    ^I'm guessing the kid is the musical equivalent of a chess grandmaster who grew up in poverty.
    That changes the odds.
    But nevertheless anything with 30% acceptance is a reach.
    When I read the profile I immediately thought St Olaf, but the deadline's passed.
    I'd have picked a safety with admissions in the 35-45%, but if the kid is really okay attending the super safety school... he's not me.
    And if he's having second thoughts, there are still pretty good colleges like Allegheny, Wooster, or Creighton accepting applications.
    If push comes to shove, there's always the NACAC list May 6th.
    So, we're all going to worry about this kid with such a risky list and a safety that doesn't match his skills but ultimately things will be okay. I hope the parent will come back to update us. :)

    It's also hard to "transition" to being a parent without a kid when so much of a parent's life revolves around children (overwhelmingly so at times). I think it really helps to think about it and plan, especially when school starts and there's no "back to school",to plan for with him/her, to plan music and treats after dropping the kid off at college, to change expectations for when they return, to hope they'll text at least once a day like you made them promise but not nag them if they don't. All of that really takes time to process for the parent. It helps in knowing that if we raised them right, they'll come back, and that we're all better off than if we stunted their growth by keeping them close.



  • intparentintparent Registered User Posts: 27,735 Senior Member
    Am thinking the OP's kid did not get into UChicago ED II. :( She posted today on the MIT forum with a question, and UC decisions came out yesterday. So probably waitlisted (as they do with most students who don't get admitted in the ED rounds). But maybe she will come back and give us an update?
  • citymama9citymama9 Registered User Posts: 1,448 Senior Member
    @intparent I'm hoping he at least gets into Berkeley. He should based on his stats, right?
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