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How can you help your shy Asian son thrive?
My son was a straight-A student in MS but began to struggle with Eng and Hist since 2nd quarter in 9th grade. Now he's at the end of 3rd quarter where he's likely to end up with Cs in both subjects. (As in math and PE though)
I had a meeting with his Eng teacher and counselor and they pointed out his "extremely shy and polite" nature that he wouldn't reach out to anyone for help with his assignments. They said there were opportunities to partner with his classmates to do some school projects and he always chose to go solo.
My son said he himself is shy and not inclined to talk to someone not very familiar. As his mom, I noticed this tendency earlier and have tried to make him more outgoing, by engaging him in group sports and activities, etc. which didn't work out very well. I learned a lesson though: You can't force your child to do something he/she doesn't really enjoy.
What I feel bad about is.. this is NOT due to his other interests or schedules at all. There are no other factors that undermine his performance in school. He does no sports, EC or after school activities whatsoever. He spends more than 5 hours on his homework everyday and still gets these bad grades. And this is his freshman year. Going forward, how can he survive junior year?
After a conversation with him, I suggested two options:
1. Transfer to a mid-size private Catholic school. The one I'm looking at is a day school, not a top-notch though. The size is much smaller than his current public school(more than 3K students) Traditionally strong at humanities subjects, yet, recently received an endowment of $3M to invest in STEM. My son agreed to a shadow visit to this school before making a decision.
2. Transfer to a smaller(than his current school) public school with a STEM program. This school ranks lower than his current one. I wonder if this school's STEM program will help my son thrive though as he's more interested in math than other subjects.