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I am currently a high school senior. I am waiting to hear back from colleges, and this is a reflection of my high school years. These past few days have been ridden with bad anxiety. However, this anxiety does not root from my fear of failure, but rather from my failure of disappointing my parents. My parents both grew up in Korea, and did not go to college. I grew up on Guam, a completely different environment from that of my parents'. Because of this difference in cultures, my parents are unfamiliar with the US education system. They do not realize that simply cutting off my social life and putting me into a million tutors aren't a one-way ticket to Harvard (or any other Ivy). Going to an Ivy-league school is not a choice; it's a privilege. I don't know how successful I would've been without my parents' leash around my neck, but with their forceful means, I am able to compete with other prospective Ivy League students as I patiently wait for the decisions to come. My main point is this: how can we put an end to Asian parents' madness? Their naive understanding of the college application process hurts their children emotionally. Every time my parents talk to me about colleges, the distance between us grows further. I don't remember the last time I had a conversation without my dad throwing a message about college. It's completely unfair for Asian parents to put this kind of pressure on their children. Sometimes, I wonder if they are so pushy with college because they want us to succeed OR so they can brag about it to other Asian parents? Does any student/parent relate to this?