My sophomore has decided that he wants to live at home and go to community college. He does have issues with depression, anxiety, LD, and ADHD (long story) but grades are improving. Last spring seemed content there, had bonded with the guys on his floor. Started talking about not going back last summer, but we did convince him to go back.
We would like him to go back for the following reasons:
1. Getting to the CC would be problematic, as he doesn't drive. There is a bus that he can catch, but I can't see him waiting in the cold. Just can't see him doing that.
2. His friends are nice kids but going nowhere, barely made it through high school. Would like him to make some friends who are a little more ambitious.
3. His school has great support services, though he is loathe to take advantage of them.
Transferring him is probably out of the question because he is on academic probation, though he seems to be doing better. His therapist recommended sending him away, and it has done him a lot of good. He is growing up and seems to be stronger emotionally. His friends have either transferred or dropped out (so he says). This year his sophomore dorm is a single with a shared bathroom, but last year he had a room mate for the first semester, which really helped him with socialization. This school is a small private 2 year college. Not much to do but drink on the weekends, though he doesn't drink, but he did enjoy the parties and the silly stuff his enebriated dormmates would do. At home he argues with his dad, holes up in the basement with the tv, computer, etc., and uses his problems as excuses as to why he can't do stuff , a sort of rebellion against us according to the therapist.
So you can see why we would like him to stay there. Hopefully he will get used to it again (takes a long time every school year to bond). The school is 2 and a half hours away, and Amtrak every week is getting expensive! He says no one lives near us that drives (find it hard to believe.) We love to see him every couple weeks or so, but every weekend just defeats the purpose.
Sorry this is long, I could go on and on. Your feedback is appreciated.