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Hi, I'm a senior in high school and I'm pretty stressed out right now and I really need your advice. Here's the story: my parents want me to go to Oxford College of Emory (I was rejected from Emory ED but Oxford allows you to transfer to Emory after 2 years) since they've dreamed of me going into Emory and becoming a doctor since before I was even born!
I want to go to Mercer University and double major in Computer Science and Computational Science and possibly a minor in Ecomomics.
As you can tell, we definitely don't think alike. I told my parents when I was a sophomore that I didn't want to go into medicine. They gave me a look that translated to, "I dare you to say that again". After that, I never mentioned my future plans with them.
Here's where the stress starts. I was accepted to Mercer and Oxford College of Emory, amongst other schools. The only reason why I applied to Oxford was because my parents forced me too. However, I brushed the acceptence of Oxford aside since I have my entire heart set out for Mercer. I want to go there. I belong there. I don't see myself in any other college but Mercer.
HOWEVER, I found out today that my parents paid the non-refundable $375 deposit to Oxford today without me knowing!! It's final... they want me to go there, take the ridiculous amount of debt, and 'magically' pay for it when I become a doctor. IF I become a doctor.
I'm so mad. And I feel hopeless. It's either go there or move out of the house. It's 4 weeks until my graduation and my parents aren't even speaking to me. I actually cried when I found out they paid for the deposit behind my back. It's like they're choosing the college for me, not the other way around. Granted, my parents never went to college and they want the best for me but still... I'm the one who'll have to attend college, not them. I want to be happy, but they don't care. All they care about is recognition of a school and me becoming a doctor. I don't know what to do now.
How should I resolve this situation? Be a good little girl and pursue this road of medicine that I'm not even interested in? Or disagree with my parents and refuse to attend Oxford College of Emory while making plans to move out before summer starts, all so I can go to a college that I want? It's insane. I'm only 18. I don't even have a job. I really don't want to move out. But my parents are serious. It's their rules or I'm out the door.