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05-03-2008, 09:43 PM
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#16 | | Senior Member
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| Honestly, I don't see what the big deal is.
I have a very good male friend, and we're just friends. If he was the same age as me (he's a year younger) and we were going to the same college, I'd love to share a room with him.
Also, at the school I'm going to, they have suites where there are two girls in one bedroom and two boys in another, but they share a large common room. So they're sharing a suite, not a room. | 
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05-03-2008, 09:57 PM
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#17 | | Senior Member
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| I don't see the big deal either. My college will likely have gender-neutral housing for next fall or the following year. | |
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05-03-2008, 10:27 PM
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#18 | | Senior Member
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| Why shouldn't folks have "friends with benefits" if they choose? Or, without benefits, if they choose that as well. | |
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05-03-2008, 11:04 PM
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#19 | | Member
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| D2 is staying on campus this summer to be in one of their summer musicals and for a part-time job. The only other people she knew well enough to want to be roommates with were a few guys, but they're gay. She tried to appeal (jokingly) to one of the school's staff members about rooming with one of these guys and, although he told her no, she indicated he did say it was something to consider for the future. | |
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05-03-2008, 11:05 PM
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#20 | | Member
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05-04-2008, 12:55 AM
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#21 | | Senior Member
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| Key phrase- they avert their eyes when one or the other is dressing. The whole reason to have single sex rooms- bed and bath- is this privacy issue. No one should have to be careful to watch themselves for "indecent exposure" everywhere. | |
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05-04-2008, 01:07 AM
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#22 | | Senior Member
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| There's another similar thread. In that one the news article stated the roommates avert their eyes when the other one dresses, this is the case for single sex rooms- both bed and bath. Everyone needs a place they can consider private, one they don't need to worry about "indecent" exposure in. | |
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05-04-2008, 02:28 AM
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#23 | | Senior Member
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| I wanted to do this next year, my parents weren't too happy, so I didn't. I don't think it's a big deal at all. | |
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05-04-2008, 07:50 AM
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| I have merged two threads started on this same topic, which should explain any temporary disjointed-ness (if it's not a word, I'll make it one for the moment  ) in the posting order. | |
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05-04-2008, 01:03 PM
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#25 | | Member
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| I guess it is the natural progression from what happens off campus. There are a lot of coed arrangements which are platonic. The choice is often based on things like safety, ability to cook etc. | |
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05-04-2008, 01:12 PM
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#26 | | Member
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| As long as they're not forcing people who don't want to live with the opposite sex to do so who cares? | |
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05-04-2008, 01:20 PM
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The whole reason to have single sex rooms- bed and bath- is this privacy issue. No one should have to be careful to watch themselves for "indecent exposure" everywhere.
| Well, most of the guys I know averted their eyes when their roomates changed anyway, so no differance there. Even at Wesleyan, many guys are very private about who sees their "junk," and while more girls are comfortable changing in front of their roomates, certianly not all of them are, so this arguement doesn't really hold up. And as someone who has slept over in the same room as her male friends, the "avert your eyes" thing is REALLY not a big deal. I mean, sure, some people would rather not have to do it...so either they chose a single, a same-sex roomate, or an opposite sex roomate who they are confortable changing in front of. Different strokes and all. | |
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05-04-2008, 01:57 PM
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#28 | | Senior Member
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| in my experience- in single sex situations I have been forced to " avert my eyes" much more than in shared situations.
In locker rooms for example, certain people act like they are in their own home and it is very awkward- it's one thing not to feel you have to hide to change clothes, its' another to do everything on the public seating area nude.
My daughters dorm were always co-ed although they did not have co-ed rooms, they had co-ed bathrooms. I felt people were much more modest in a shared situation than they were in a single sex environment.
She had a single for her first three years, and senior year lived in a college housing townhouse with a male roommate. IT worked fairly well I think. ( they also had two bedrooms and two baths) | 
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05-05-2008, 08:11 AM
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#29 | | Member
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| Well, come on, I mean, really! It's nonsensical to think that all these arrangements would remain platonic. That may be OK to many parents, but we shouldn't pretend. If you want your kid to lose weight, he probably shouldn't live in a candy store. | |
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05-05-2008, 08:40 AM
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#30 | | Senior Member
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| If that is your concern- how would a single sex environment be candy free?
Haven't you heard of GUG? | |
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