I realize I am not the first parent to be in this situation, so I'm appealing to all of you out there for some good advice. My son is highly intelligent ("gifted", they say), but incredibly lazy. We live overseas, and his school, though great in a lot of ways, is not very challenging. (He's already skipped a year, and is two years ahead in English and Math). Consequently, he gets A's and B's without really trying. With a little bit of effort, he could easily get all A's. It is not an unreasonable bar for him to set for himself, as even his teachers say. I'm not a pushy mom who thinks her kids have to go to Harvard, but I do think that he is wasting his gifts and potential, and it is very frustrating for me. How do I make him see that his actions at the age of 14 may already be closing doors and opportunities? I was the exact opposite of him at that age (to a fault, I admit), so it is doubly frustrating for me.
By the way, there are no drug or alcohol issues here. Most of the time he's playing the bass or goofing around on Facebook!