How is your Freshman adjusting?

[China]

"I'd add: and not coming back home, but either with gainful employment or some other future plan at hand and implemented, lol! (not that I don't love him, but .....)"

galwaymom - Oh, I'm with you 100% on that!!! Glad your son is feeling better.

[oceansaway]

LasMa- I'm sorry it's still so hard. My D is still up and down, and I sometimes I wonder if she should still be having so much trouble, but I try to remind myself that each child grows in their own way, at their own pace. Try and take time for yourself. My H is better at being hardhearted- he reminds me not to answer every text or every call right away. She's learning that some problems can't be fixed by mom or perhaps, even at all, which is a huge life lesson we've all had to learn...

[hannele]

Mom of a college freshman

[hannele]

Hi Sailorgirl,
I have the same type of son as a freshman and same 'sort of concern' he's not engineering major (acting). He loves music, sports, friends,.. he is in a big college what he wanted. We went for parents' weekend and had a wonderful time together. It's tricky, they and you need to feel 'close' for you to start lecturing.The facts should be clear, but it's all how you say/lecture it. Depends very much how close you are. Obviously he loves it there in college (mine too) I would start talking about the 'good stuff' (90%) leave the 'facts' to minimal (10%)-He gets it!! Just short and sweet .. If the lecturing is overkill then it's stressful and you loose the open connection.

[hannele]

To the Analyst- Vow your son is really motivated/focused really envy that -It's the goal
thinking that is the key- My son's math tutor in High School got him to the goal thinking and he did great in math but he doesn't like math -so far- so he got in to acting which he loves and that got him inot a good college majoring in acting. In his High school years he was 3 years a star in the extracurricular Shakespeare program. Don't know how to get him to take a math or another class in business as plan B, --Acting as profession is
hard-

[LasMa]

Hi hannele, and welcome.

[hannele]

LasMa- Thanks for the welcome! I wish my son would want to do physics -actually his dad would like it, being one himself -I feel sort of guilty because got the good news from my son that he can't go to the rock concert because he has to do stage management class . He was going to take the bus 5 hours, go to the concert, and take the bus back 5hours!! And he is sick ! Now he is sad because he can't see Eric Clapton in concert-Girls are so much more mature with academics --