This is my second year as an empty nester, third year as a BS parent, and I've finally made the adjustment. Year one, older child went away as an almost 16 yr old sophomore. I grieved much more than she did and it took a long time to stop wishing she were with me for shopping, movies, watching TV, etc. Year three, two years after older child left, we are closer than ever through phone and vacation visits, and I've finally gotten used to it. Year two, younger brother went away and that was tougher both because he was younger AND because now it was a truly empty nest. In both cases, there was a physical grief that subsided over time. We've reached a new normal where I *GULP* even like the clean house, less laundry and less shopping. My terrible fear of flying has even subsided (out of necessity).
I hope for all of you that you come to feel, as we have, that it is SO worth it. The kids are happy, smart and engaged and our family time together is magical. Yes, there have been bumps in the road, but never a time when we thought they were better off at home. Never.
Last edited by wcmom1958; 09-29-2012 at 12:13 PM.