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LBad96

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  • Re: How much debt is too much?

    @itsgettingreal17 why is it an immature attitude to not see any value in attending a college/university you don't like? The notion of graduating from a school that's not at all good academically/a good fit just for the sake of cost is worthless to me. And my parents are paying off my loans for me...think I may have said that before, actually.

    OP, make sure you have a balanced list. And make sure you only apply anywhere you would actually see yourself attending.
  • Re: What are the most annoying threads on CC?

    I'll just say it: the general CC bubble irritates me. Every thread I see that constantly refers only to the elite schools as opposed to general colleges + univs makes me cringe.
  • Re: Did you expect your OOS kid to come home after graduation?

    Okay, you all make good points, especially about not worrying about that right now. I'll update my other thread in a bit, as school has ended and I am home now.

    I created this thread because last week was kinda a whirlwind. I told my family that I intended to stay in Wilmington for the summer, but I made the mistake of only telling them during finals week...and over text. BIG mistake. Another big mistake was failing to call them at a designated time (the evening after my last final) to talk about it. They got so incensed that they nearly withdrew support for me to attend UNCW. Apparently the implication was that I wasn't coming home at all this summer..so I had to come back home ASAP to fix things.

    Luckily, after I came back and got to see them face-to-face, my mom at least understood why I wanted to remain in Wilmington this summer and felt that my rationale for doing so - wanted to set legitimate roots down there, all my friends are there, my social life has improved tenfold since going to school there, I still don't know the city as well as I think I should after two years, my life functions better down there - was sound enough. But then she said yesterday that they probably wouldn't have let me go to school OOS (or at least so far away) if they knew that meant that I wasn't planning on living in Jersey again, and how this area is supposedly better for what I want to do (International Business + French) and how my dad has had plans for me to take over his business in the future...yet my mom's never liked this area any more than I have and just last year wanted to move to NC potentially. Dad's still a little upset, as he felt a bit abandoned by my original summer plans. I've told him several times that it was 100% locational and 0% familial, but still he thinks it was because I didn't want to see them. So that's incredibly frustrating. And apparently now they're not letting my younger siblings go OOS. My mom says I should apply for a summer job here, but I want to apply to places both here and there just to see what would happen (internship search didn't work out, I even persistently followed up and everything). It's just that last summer was very boring, and I didn't get to see my HS friends as often as I would've anticipated. I was trying to avoid that scenario this time, especially because I just can't get comfortable up here because of my past. We will see. I may still at least get to visit Wilmington this summer and/or go back a day or two earlier in August.

    I just wanted some parents to help me rationalize all of this. My friends all say that they're trying to rob me of my freedom and that they're going to have to let me go eventually, and that I need to do what's best for me. I do generally agree that it's a little too early to be seriously talking about this. At the end, I'm just happy to be staying at the school I love. No point pulling me out to be local when I'm halfway through anyways, especially when I would look at my degree as worthless if I didn't like the school I graduated from. I definitely view coming home after graduation as something that should be a mutual want as opposed to something I feel is forced on me because of other issues.
  • Did you expect your OOS kid to come home after graduation?

    Because apparently that's the expectation and desire in my household. They want me to head back to NJ after I graduate, yet they let me go to a different part of the country...they've even gone so far as to say they wouldn't have let me go OOS if they knew I wouldn't head back to Jersey.

    More venting later, but I want some parents' perspective on this: if you let your kid go to school OOS, did you expect them to return to the state after graduation? Why or why not? If they did come home, was it a desire (or necessity) on their part or an obligation from your end?
  • Re: Did you expect your OOS kid to come home after graduation?

    @MYOS1634 I've actually been back home since Tuesday, and I already want to go back to Wilmington. I don't do anything up here at all, I'm just lazy at home.

    Don't some places do Skype interviews? I would interview with them via video chat and would go back if I get the job. There are still positions available looking on Indeed and other sites.