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lookingforward Senior Member

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  • Re: Underenrolled Majors

    It's the tunnel vision, not the fact of having some initial "focus." We were talking Yale. Pre-professional refers to fixed post college ideas, little interest in other exploration or other intellectual growth.

    Lib arts kids can be pre-professional. It doesn't exclusively mean stem or a profession like medicine.
  • Re: How the hell am I gonna afford NYU?

    If OP runs the NPC and the college is not affordable, his Plans B and C needs to include colleges that offer a better bottom line.

    Taking massive loans, over what the Direct offers, is not good. Some other kids may have different details. Each individual needs to make his or her own wise choices.
  • Re: Say it here cause you can't say it directly- the get it off your chest thread

    On CC, please reconsider before filling up the gas tank on another parent's helicopter.

    Especially when that heli-parent wants to lock a middle school kid in, before any outside verification the kid is ready. Appreciate their curiosity. But that doesn't mean he or she is a certified genius.
  • Re: Dinner Alone?

    ^ what Tiger wrote. You don't even need to make them engage in conversation. (Some don't like when the new add tries too hard to draw them out. It's not a date.) Just smile and then see if you have something that makes sense to say.

    Resist eating in your room or the cafe, where people scoot in and then out. There's a human response to someone who's seen often in a place where many actually sit, congregate. They can start to feel you're known, a recognition factor. Look around, have a comfy smile.

    In fall, showing up where kids watch tv sports is an idea. Doesn't matter if you're not interested in the game, you don't have to fake it. Just being there, being seen in that casual setting, routinely, brings that recognition. After even a short while, they can assume you're "one of them." Then it's easier to join the right, open ones in the dining hall.

    I don't think you need to seek out loners. Later, when your own social confidence is up, you can make sure to invite them to join your group.
  • Re: Psychology question: why is confirmation that I'm making the right choice bothering me?

    Oh rosered, so sorry.
    Why you feel so bad? Because you're beginning the grieving. Make her last days as special as you can. And if it helps, we'll be here to virtually hold your hand.

    Ours had lumps we were told were ok, only to learn later that she had a serious issue elsewhere. We did a little surgery, which ultimately didn't stave off the progress. At that point, I asked the girls if they wanted to come see her.