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  • Re: Are my daughter and her friends all destined to be librarians with cats?

    I have been following this thread for awhile because @lindagaf 's daughter reminds me a lot of my own daughter and her core friend group. Most of them are entering freshmen and sophomores in college and most of them have yet to date, casually or seriously. They are all smart, funny, attractive, down-to-earth girls. Some are downright stunning.

    They don't drink or do drugs and they're not interested in casual hook-ups. And while I think they'd all like to have a love life, they aren't angsting too much about not having one just yet. They tend to socialize in groups that include both boys and girls.

    I also don't think these girls are projecting unavailability or are inherently approachable. Nor are they pushing away the nice, earnest guys because they are drawn towards the handsome, less substantial ones. I don't think they're doing anything "wrong." Frankly, I am a bit perplexed as to why they aren't being approached or aren't having their overtures reciprocated, should they decide to make the first move. But I also have to remind myself that there were plenty of girls like them in my generation who were "late bloomers" and most found romance in due course. I'm sure they will, as well.

  • Re: How to get financial aid if my parents make plenty of money, but won't pay?

    Do your parents know how much college costs these days? My daughter has a friend whose parents had a similar approach to yours. They did not understand that it's no longer possible to earn tuition, room and board with summer and part time work, as was possible when their generation went to college.

    If you could provide your home state, your GPA, and your test score info, people here will be able to steer you towards the lowest cost options.

    Full tuition is a reasonable aspiration for merit-based aid, depending on your stats. Full ride is a lot harder to obtain. If your parents will pay nothing, your budget is federal student loan + summer earnings + part time work - roughly 10K.

    Do you have an approximate idea of their income?
  • Re: Abuse and Financial Aid

    Get help now. Abuse is abuse, the frequency is irrelevant. The fact that it happens sporadically makes it more unpredictable, and to my mind more frightening.

    Document everything.

    Please do something proactive for your health and safety.
  • Re: How do you like Rutgers campus?

    I was curious and checked the costs at Rutgers. Roughly 45K for OOS, which is less that I had imagined. The location is good for internships and jobs.
  • Re: Parents of the HS Class of 2017

    @momocarly OK, you have now set the bar for move in complexity. Your son's roommate is renting land for his sheep! I will never complain about bedding and toiletries, ever!