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I have been following this thread for awhile because @lindagaf 's daughter reminds me a lot of my own daughter and her core friend group. Most of them are entering freshmen and sophomores in college and most of them have yet to date, casually or seriously. They are all smart, funny, attractive, down-to-earth girls. Some are downright stunning.
They don't drink or do drugs and they're not interested in casual hook-ups. And while I think they'd all like to have a love life, they aren't angsting too much about not having one just yet. They tend to socialize in groups that include both boys and girls.
I also don't think these girls are projecting unavailability or are inherently approachable. Nor are they pushing away the nice, earnest guys because they are drawn towards the handsome, less substantial ones. I don't think they're doing anything "wrong." Frankly, I am a bit perplexed as to why they aren't being approached or aren't having their overtures reciprocated, should they decide to make the first move. But I also have to remind myself that there were plenty of girls like them in my generation who were "late bloomers" and most found romance in due course. I'm sure they will, as well.
Do your parents know how much college costs these days? My daughter has a friend whose parents had a similar approach to yours. They did not understand that it's no longer possible to earn tuition, room and board with summer and part time work, as was possible when their generation went to college.
If you could provide your home state, your GPA, and your test score info, people here will be able to steer you towards the lowest cost options.
Full tuition is a reasonable aspiration for merit-based aid, depending on your stats. Full ride is a lot harder to obtain. If your parents will pay nothing, your budget is federal student loan + summer earnings + part time work - roughly 10K.