Sure you could do counseling if you like but you ask "what next" and if I were in your shoes what next would be to work for a couple years and then see if she still wants to make a third attempt. I would turn over that process to her. We had two families that went through the 2x thing and ultimately both those kids after being on their own for a couple years went back to college and did very, very well but both sets of parents took a big hands off position with the kid's.
The "statistic" has been pretty much debunked, although it still shows up in some media. If all things were equal, which they are not, then yes, in the Atlantic article she molested him if he didn't consent. But the odds of some random guy framing a free BJ as molestation is pretty slim IMO. Regardless that is the upside down world of University sex politics. In the Atlantic article he got screwed by a crazy person and a really bad system. He got suspended and it took years to find another college. Universities figuring it out on their own failed. Guidance from the Dear colleague letter failed so now it will be opened up through appropriate channels that should have been followed to begin with. I saw in a news feed that one uni just moved their Title IX office under the unis General Counsel...that is a pretty good start in my book. Many of those Title IX offices have been pretty loose canons.
Oh my...I guess a lot of marriages start with babies but it is a lot to bite off for sure. I used to be jealous of my friends who had grandma-sitters. My mother made it clear they were not "sitters"...we survived. I have no idea how I will feel but I imagine I have time to digest. Chances are I will be approaching 70 when that bridge needs to be crossed.
I think tred carefully... to assume that the recruiter was being sexist could be a very wrong assumption. It is one thing to mentally mark for yourself "oh that recruiter was sexist" with verbalyzing your opinion to the career office or others. There could be dozens of reasons why her encounter was not optimal for her that are not rooted in sexism.