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momofthreeboys

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  • Re: Going to a "Christian" University when you are not raised with religion?

    I actually know a few kids that went to Liberty and loved it. As Barron's points out drinking until you puke and having roommates who think nothing of having their date of the day sleep over is not for everyone. Not for me but I am also highly sensitive to gross generalizations. Everyone chooses their college for different reasons. There are obviously Christian colleges like Hope that are completely on the other end of the Spectrum from Liberty and almost indistinguishable from any other private college.
  • Re: The Atlantic "Rape on Campus" Articles

    What was once "acceptable" behavior (and is sadly still acceptable by some) is now rightfully seen as criminal,

    Which is why it is of the utmost importance to change law through appropriate channels. And why the use of executive orders to implement change is risky business for a president because once that administration is gone, those orders can be voided. I have limited belief that unis and colleges will succeed or will even want to potentially limit their appeal to a broad base of students by re-characterizing non criminal behaviors into behaviors egregious enough to command expulsion - maybe but I doubt it. Colleges with restrictive policies around sex and alcohol have limited appeal and they are currently available coast to coast for students who want that degree of intervention and oversight by their institutions. Whether they adhere to the restrictive, narrowly define behaviors without the fear of federal withdrawal of financial aid is another question. But I don't recall specifics in the Dear College letter that even attempted to categorize one behavior vs another outside of what is generally known as criminal. I think the universities did that all by themselves.

    As far as changing behavior there is evidence that it works - in this case thought the evidence needs to be on "risky behavior" as opposed to attempting to focus on one segment of the college population.... a good example are the anti-smoking campaigns and the drunk driving campaigns...while clearly the "idea" was to prevent a population of people from smoking or to prevent a population from driving drunk, the idea was to drive change throughout the entire population targeting the messaging to everyone - to increase peer pressure not to drink and drive or to smoke, to build awareness, to stigmatize bad behavior. I truly think people are missing the boat if they think educating only women about risky behavior or only educating men about risky behavior will have limited success....some but not to the potential a more generally targeted effort around risky behaviors, peer pressures, bystander intervention would yield.
  • Re: The Atlantic "Rape on Campus" Articles

    Yes. There is an saying that actions speak louder than words. I believe that women have agency. I believe they own their actions and I think that anyone who accuses someone of something heinous will and should have their accusation examined and scrutinized. And I don't call that victim blaming I call that good investigation. I also believe if you have been accused of something heinous anything exculpatory should be given equal consideration and the accused's story deserves examination and scrutiny. I think what is good for the goose is good for the gander and you cannot excuse alcohol or drugs either as an accuser or an accused.

    I actually believe that if we used intoxication as a benchmark plenty of men have been assaulted and plenty wake up and think OMG I was wearing beer goggles and may very well wish they never would see their bed partner again. Somehow both parties managed to get somewhere together under their own steam because if there was force it is criminal and we have a system for that. And yes even in the criminal system the accusation will be scrutinized and the accuser will need to produce exculpatory evidence or plea or stand trial.

    There are no free passes. If you leave your keys in the car and your car gets stolen you will get a ticket in most locales for public nuisance or whatever the ordinance is and a lecture most likely from the cop even though you were the victim. We have gone down a very slippery slope by circumventing the criminal system, operating from an assumption of guilt rather than innocence and creating an inherently discriminatory system that serves no one well on either side of the bed.
  • Re: Hair Styles For Women "Over 50"

    I am not a fan of long hair once the wrinkles set in. Most women I encounter with long hair do look like badly aging hippie earth mamas. To each his own and it is important to be happy with yourself first. I keep mine at chin length to a tad longer and Salt and pepper. My mom looked so much better when she stopped the hair dye, toned down her lipstick and cut some length off her hair but she is one of those that doesn't see reality in the mirror and it took her a long long time to embrace change.
  • Re: Would you have said this?

    Maybe she can bring a dish to share that suits her eating style?