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sleeplessmom1 Junior Member

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  • Rejection-How to handle disappointment

    DS was not admitted into his first choice (UCLA). We warned him that he had a small chance of getting in because his stats were on the lower end of the acceptance range. He has been completely focused on his first choice in the last 2 years. Of course, he is extremely disappointed, but more so , because one of his best friends was admitted with much lower stats. He now feels that he has worked extremely hard throughout high school for nothing. As parents, we know that much of college admissions is just the luck of the draw. How have you consoled your child and convinced him it's not the end of the world. And yes, our child is a drama king. He has been admitted to many other schools and this is his first rejection.
  • Re: Rejection-How to handle disappointment

    @ucbalumnus You are correct. He applied to a highly popular major. We, the parents, have moved on. He has not. He has stated that he will place minimal effort into the rest of the semester, because his grades don't matter anymore. We are worried that his grades will just sink with this attitude.
  • Re: Group projects

    DS said he spoke to his teacher today. He mentioned that his partner was too busy to work on the project this weekend. His teacher's response, " So are you going to complete the project by yourself?" Well, at least she knows he's doing most of the work.
  • Re: Why is the media/public so quick to pick on "Tiger Parenting" in Asian families?

    There are studies that have been done to dispel the myth of the Asian Tiger Mom/Parents. From the American Psychological Association ---"Taken as a whole, the collection of papers in this special issue suggests several take-home messages. One, although tiger parenting (defined as harsh, demanding and emotionally unsupportive) exists among Asian-heritage families, it is not common. Two, tiger parenting is not linked to the best child outcomes — both academically and socioemotionally. Third, the studies collectively show that there is much more variation in Asian-heritage parenting behaviors and practices beyond being strict, controlling and demanding high academic achievement of their children. Using a range of samples and methodologies, the findings suggest that Asian-heritage parents are also warm, supportive, and loving toward their children, which has not been emphasized (and perhaps even de-emphasized) in the literature. The special issue dispels some of these stereotypical, monolithic notions of Asian-heritage parenting by offering a more nuanced and accurate perspective so that readers can see beyond the myth of the tiger mother."

    Original article ---http://www.apa.org/pi/oema/resources/communique/2013/05/tiger-parents.aspx

    and http://www.asianscientist.com/2011/05/academia/does-asian-tiger-mother-exist/