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Skip the test and if they ask - you are planning to take it Senior year as you needed more time to study. Everyone knows it's a hard test so that's fine. Also results don't come back until July so that way colleges won't see the score (or know if you took it senior yr) anyway. It will look worse to get a 1/2 then to not take it. Also if Calc is challenging - then u should retake it in college anyway if you're a STEM major.
Different kids have different strengths and weaknesses, that is why they look at the big picture.
Are you sure XC is an important sport to the schools? Some schools view XC as an "inclusive" sport but not a scholarship sport (though if your DD is top in the state, she is probably scholarship material). Maybe they just have too many runners. 11th grade applicant is a factor.
It's important to apply to a range of schools. Many of the applicants are top in their sport, have a unique interest, AND have top grades and test scores. There is also the interview, the essays, and LUCK.And again, it's harder to get in for 11th grade, much harder. And I think they expect higher test scores for 11th because the "real thing" (SAT, ACT) is right around the corner.
Finally, did you say you needed FA or are you Full Pay? Even if a school is "need blind", they still may not choose to apply FA to 11th and will have a total FA budget to comply with. You applied to VERY competitive schools. Those are not the only excellent schools out there, especially in the Northeast region.
Sometimes, the AO's are just good at their jobs - bringing out kids personalities in the discussion. Students have also felt like they had great interviews and then been shocked at the rejection later. I think taking notes on who to advocate for later is common ;) - that's what they do.
We found out the hard way that it is harder to get into a BS in your own state. The schools (in our state) are too far to drive daily 2 ways (DS has 2 younger siblings so I can't sit around in the BS town all day -that would be 5+ hours on the road to go back and forth!). But, the schools get plenty of students from the home state (ie, Day students and some legacies or athletes), that they want the remainder of BS students to come from less represented states...Geodiversity.
DS genuinely wanted 2 of the schools in our state. But 1 Reject and one WL of those; the other we didn't like at the visit. Clearly, he was more interested in those schools than the students that had those simply at the bottom of their list of 8 schools.
I think it's more competitive for kids from the northeast, as well as kids from overrepresented countries like China.
I think OP kid would have been better served in a more challenging school district or private school. Also, as a parent, you can do other things to challenge them such as summer courses, STEM camps, finding a gifted program, etc.