Question about additional recommendations ?
I have been lurking on CC for about 2 months, and it has been a Godsend doing my applications and just helping me feel that we're all in the same boat. I finally registered and this is my FIRST posting so be gentle please.
I have a question that I have not noticed come up, and could not find in a search of the forums, and I am hoping that somebody in the know -- like DanAdmiss@Tufts or someone similar -- can give me some guidance.
I applied RD to Tufts (I cannot WAIT for April 1st - yeah!). Of course, whenever I meet people around town they ask about my plans. At my church there is a woman who graduated from Tufts a number of years ago, and she was happy to hear that I had applied there and that I consider it one of my top choices.
Here's my issue: She is a friend of my Mom and has known me since i was a babby, and she has INSISTED on writing me an unsolicited recommendation -- which I truly appreciate -- but I am concerned that it would not be appreciated by the adcomms at Tufts. I suspect she can add some additional 'character' angles that may fill in some blanks from my academic recommendations, but it is not like she will say anything earth-shattering. She is insistent and I am fearful that Tufts will view this not as something unsolicited, but as a sign from me that I think my application is weak. I think i am a strong applicant without anything additional. I am almost considering calling Tufts and asking them to disregard it. But that seems kind of random too.
Help! I don't want to hurt this lady's feelings, but if I hear from someone who knows that it is a bad idea (or even just a neutral idea) then I can feel confident in telling her so and maybe she'll get the message.
And please don't say just tell her to back off. She is a family friend and that's what is causing a good [part of my angst. My mom is part of the problem here, but like i said she will likely abide by whatever i can find out here.
Many appreciations to anyone who responds.