The story in the Alabama paper sounds exactly like what would have been written from my experience nearly 30 years ago in a midwestern private university. The girl was from my hometown and the reason for not bidding her was that she would not get a letter of recommendation from her local alums. This was not generally known, my roommate was on the rush committee and told me. Ironically, I know that the alum liaison was a teacher at the school which both this girl and I had attended, and she would not hesitate to write a recommendation.
Sounds like the current Actives wanted to extend a bid, but the Alums were using the "didn't have a rec" guideline for not? Not only does that stink, but since this has been exposed, it's less likely it will happen again due to the negative publicity.
The current Actives should be able to determine who their pledges should be....not us old Alums.
“Our philanthropy chair really wanted her and was rooting for her and left before the parties and everything when she found out [the recruit was dropped],” the Chi Omega member said. “She was living in the house – she just packed up all her stuff and left the house and left rush.”
If this is true, bravo to the young woman for standing up for her beliefs and walking out rather than sitting around shaking her head. Talk is cheap and perpetuates problems. Be the change.
It is heartening that so many women were willing to willing to speak out, even anonymously, for this article. It indeed appears that change will be slower if current chapter members can be overruled by alumnae during selection. I don't recall any alumnae rush participation at my house 25 years ago, in Virginia.
OP, I hope you don't mind me using your thread to learn, but I find the differences in the cultures of sororities fascinating. The article alludes to alumni concerns about "popularity". I'm trying to wrap my head around that. Sure, their were rivalries, not always playful, in college, but why would an alumni care? The National Pan Hell Alumni work together in most communities, and "popularity" doesn't seem to be an issue.
Well in light of the recent stories in the media about the black student not being welcome into sororities by UA alumnae, I have decided that the University of Alabama isn't the school for me. The full ride was a nice plus, but I can find that at schools that have fewer issues with racism. It is a shame that a school that was such a great academic fit for me isn't going to work out. Thanks for all of the replies, everyone.
We are reserving our decision to accept or not until the spring. I know folks on here will probably flame be...but I can't shake the feeling that if not for the overwhelmingly bad press that nothing would have changed. I have a hard time believing that the powers that be had no idea that this blatant racism was occurring. Like it or not, this episode has hurt UA. The very OOS, high stat kids UA is looking to recruit are the same kids who are now reexamining their offers. So, you can light me up if you'd like, but that won't change the truth.
^^^Bigdaddy88: Of course, you are free to do as you like. However, I don't see how withholding attendance from the university and missing out on an amazing scholarship and education will benefit your daughter. I can tell you from my personal experience that the University of Alabama is much more than what is described here on this forum.
Attending UA puts students in contact with others from across the fifty states, as well as with international students. If I were a prospective student, I would rather be in a place of change than in a place that has stagnated into a single mindset. The University of Alabama is not perfect but then I cant imagine any one university being perfect.
The fact that they offer amazing scholarships to outstanding students is a just a bonus.
Bigdaddy, I think you're being short sighted. Remember, we are applauding this change as one that was wanted by the students but stymied by adults. You should feel proud to send your child to a university where the student body is primed for change and where they have backing from the university. Also remember that 70% of students like my D that are not Greek see this as a galvanizing event evidenced in large and small ways this week whether that be the Student Rally on the quad or the suspension of block seating this week at the football game so all students could be united. I applaud and am deeply touched by the results of this week. It is meaningful and significant, and in my opinion NOT a reason to shy away. Roll Tide Roll to everyone in Tuscaloosa this week!