everybody should join the deferred thread

it feels a lot better knowing that there's so many other people who know what i'm feeling right now, being deferred
but then again i wish they wouldn't have deferred so many people because it almost feels like the deferral doesn't even mean anything
but....then again......if they hadn't deferred so many people, i probably wouldn't have gotten deferred.
so i guess it's all good how it is right now