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Parents of HS Jrs (HS class of '14)


Replies to: Parents of HS Jrs (HS class of '14)

  • NESCACgrad88NESCACgrad88 Registered User Posts: 39 Junior Member
    ChicagoMama, another interesting anecdote: S1 (football player) received a "form letter" recruiting email from Lehigh. Email stated that in order to be eligible to be recruited academically, you need a 3.3 and a 1000 SAT (math + verbal). This is well below the quoted numbers for that school. Fascinating, to say the least.
  • GingerPeachGingerPeach Registered User Posts: 116 Junior Member
    The football story is astonishing. BTW just asking, have been looking and seems like there was a lot of fallout a few years ago with the president at Yale with athletic recruiting. I know that president has now since resigned, however, did I read correctly that for a year or two Yale did little to no recruiting? Is that possible? This has been a crazy month at our HS for the starters who are rising seniors and Yale did visit our school and asked to meet our son, although we did not submit a questionnaire. We have submitted the questionnaire since.
  • GingerPeachGingerPeach Registered User Posts: 116 Junior Member
    Also, just to add to the thread, I think our son has been pulled from class about a dozen times for a variety of schools. Five ivies have visited that we know of, 4 asked to meet our son, 1 did not. He's met about 4 NESCACS, one service academy and three other schools. I may or may not be off by one. Sometimes I lose track whether it's been a phone call in response to a questionnaire or an actual coach visit. All I know is that while in March it was like pulling teeth to get him into school some days, now he's up with the first crow wondering who might be visiting. Happy May !!
  • bonard48bonard48 Registered User Posts: 55 Junior Member
    Keep in mind this is an absolute minimum and probably reflects generally the Patriot League's absolute low band minimum AI score. So it is not like this is the standard for every football recruit, or even more than a few per school per year. The football recruiting letters for Harvard use an 1800 number for the SAT, but again there will only be a few of those, at most, per year. It is a lot easier to get recruitedin the Patriot or Ivy Leagues if you are a high AI band kid.
  • RowmomRowmom Registered User Posts: 95 Junior Member
    It feels like the next several months will be very intense. Even the kids on the team are much more close-lipped as they are competing with one another, and they know it. One coach even mentioned a teammate (in passing as they are also in contact) to my kid and asked how they got along. (Fortunately the whole team is really cohesive.)

    Coach communication has definitely picked up even as their end of season competition is coming to a head. Some of it is very positive - head coaches now in the conversation; it's feeling more personal in some cases - and then silence. My kid feels like anything is possible from a top school pick to nothing at all depending on how the cards fall - depending on how the subject tests come out - depending on how final time trials come out - depending on how the rest of the recruiting class performs. Should it still feel so 'up in the air'? I thought it would be much more clear, by now.

    And I am becoming more stressed - insisting that every last second be used to prepare to subject 2s - kid is exhausted practicing for Nationals in the morning before school and after - everyday over Memorial Day weekend. No breaks. It is a grind right now.

    Is anyone's else's situation the same - or is ours less clear because it is less promising?
  • 5amriser5amriser Registered User Posts: 149 Junior Member
    You need to relax. You and your S can only do your best and you all are doing that. You can't control what all other people do so focus on only what you can contribute to in the whole process and forget about other things. Also there are always alternatives if things don't turn out the way you envisioned. Your anxiety level will affect your S's outlook of the whole process so really try to enjoy the journey. I am not saying that there won't be stress, but I decided a few months ago that I want to make the recruitment process a means of creating memories with my S before he leaves the nest so I try to look at the bigger picture when things start to stress me. Amazingly, after I thought about what I really want to accomplish through this process, I started seeing many things differently. Plan B might not be plan A but it might end up better than Plan A.
  • 5amriser5amriser Registered User Posts: 149 Junior Member
    And I do understand the grind. S has been practicing 4-5 hours a day while taking an insane amount of IB/AP/final exams. My point is to focus on getting the milk and cookies ready when they drag their feet back to the house at night and ask what you can do to help instead of worrying :)
  • RowmomRowmom Registered User Posts: 95 Junior Member
    Good Advice 5am, and the question - What do we want o accomplish out of this process? - interesting. Regardless of what happens I know kid will have good options and get an excellent education. So this is an adventure of sorts.

    To my son I am more relaxed - sometimes. It is internally that never turns off. And I do think that Plan B could be better than Plan A. I keep telling kid - be careful what you wish for - it could happen and are you sure that's really what you want?

    It's my Type A controlling personality that does not like all the uncertainty.
  • LivesinHobbitonLivesinHobbiton Registered User Posts: 161 Junior Member
    I want to echo 5am's advice. my kids are swimmers and my son in particular also rows (yes! 4+ hours of working out per day! insanity!) so I know something about these sports...so exhausting, and most of the other kids are fantastic students. My d is a senior, s is a sophomore. D was very frustrating to me...I am very different from her. I am much more type A and controlling, and I personally was focused on trying to help her get the best "deal" by leveraging her athletic talent. But she isn't that way at all and it drove me crazy to watch her casually decide not to study for SATs, for example. She was looking for the coach and the school who would prize her for who she was--she was determined to not morph into some kind of test-taking robot for the sake of "scoring" a great college. I humbly admit to the world that I was wrong and she was right. I think I gave her good guidelines and I still don't think I was "wrong," but SHE was right for HER and I think I would have been a happier mom over the past couple of years if I had stepped back a little.

    Just a little, though! :)
  • CulverdadCulverdad Registered User Posts: 17 New Member
    Hi all,

    I am the father of young lady lightweight rower, high school class of 2014. I have used CC to gain understanding of the process and it has been a great resource (most of the time).

    She had a CRAZY spring with all the AP tests, rigorous class finals, SAT prep, training with her crew for States, Regionals, and Nationals. I can tell you it was tough on her. But, she made it.

    I think now is the crunch time for recruited rowers. Scheduling OVs, gauging the programs/schools and trying to learn as much as possible before making huge decisions. I am sure it is the same for the other athletes.

    Thank you to all of the posters who have given time and info to post here in CC.
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