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Recruiting ABC's - the Board's Collective Wisdom


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  • MidwestmomofboysMidwestmomofboys 4018 replies27 threadsRegistered User Senior Member
    @mamom -- happy it worked in the end for your daughter, despite the ups and downs.

    For future recruits, I would add -- be flexible, don't take it personally. Coaches may blow hot and then cold or they may be non-committal. They may be trying to keep the "funnel" of prospects wide until they get some commitments or they just may be having a bad week and will be back to themselves in a week.

    My kid learned a lot about handling rejection and disappointment through the recruiting process. His initial top choice school, which he loved and seemed like a great fit -- collapsed on him over a period of months, as the coach went from saying he was at the top of his list to not responding to emails. For another top school, he couldn't get his test scores into the (pretty high) range required by the coach for admission, and had to take that school off his list. We realized that coach had basically no "pull" with admissions so scores had to be in the top 25%, and that just didn't happen.

    And, while it is true that coaches may come and go, if you don't like the coach or feel like it's a bad fit -- don't hesitate to move on. At 2 schools which seemed otherwise like good matches, academically and athletically, my kid walked out of the meeting saying he couldn't play for that guy.

    Lastly, while a full visit, with class visit, time with the team, meeting with coach, watching practice if in season etc. is essential, I don't think the overnight is necessary for everyone. My own kid can be on the reserved side, and the prospect of crashing on the floor of a stranger who is a possible future teammate etc., was just not necessary for him to make a decision.
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  • mamommamom 3675 replies24 threadsRegistered User Senior Member
    edited May 2018
    @LMK999, D was frank with the coaches, they were not her first choice, or she didn't click during the OV and I believe they were frank with her. She took emails, text msg and phone calls from most. It wasn't until winter ball (and the college season was over) that D started to get real communication from coaches. She would send updates on stats, additional film, etc every week or so. They typically took a few days to respond. All the coaches wanted transcripts and test scores during the summer and did admission pre reads. All came back positive, but most of the coaches also told her, it was not an automatic in, admissions would re-evaluate once they got the full app. Once that happened, the coaches pushed to set up OV's. Five is a lot, but at that point (end of summer) she was still not on her #1 choices list and D had not fallen in love with any one school. My D's school was very accommodating with her missing so much school at the beginning of the year. Those OV's were important for D. She sat in classes, spent the night with members from the team and got to know the coaches better. Sometimes, she attended a captains practice. They definitely helped her sort her list out. It worked out really well for D, but as I read on this forum last year, it is like a game of musical chairs. When asked the coaches answered where D was on their list. Maybe we got lucky, but, we did not feel anyone was stringing D along. Oh, if money is an issue, get a financial pre-read, fill in the NPC and don't expect any last minute money. D had a friend whose parents could not afford her #1 school, but did not understand how it worked. If you cannot afford the dream school in August, you probably cannot in Dec. Be honest with your kids and move one. The sooner you do that the more opportunities they may have.
    edited May 2018
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  • SevenDadSevenDad 4248 replies135 threadsRegistered User Senior Member
    An addition based on a recent thread on ECs:

    - In general, even selective colleges won't expect high-level athletes to have the same sort of ECs — in quantity or commitment — as NARPs. This is not to say that athletes should give up on non-athletic interests. To the contrary, they should participate in any activities that they enjoy doing. Parents, on the other hand, should not worry so much about whether their athlete has focused too much in one area and needs a broader base of ECs. If an athlete spends 20-30 hours a week on a sport, there isn't going to be much time left for other endeavors, and that allows for only superficial EC involvement. Colleges want depth, and not breadth.

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