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828195828195 Registered User Posts: 17 New Member
edited April 2010 in Carleton College
what's the dating scene like?
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  • mflevitymflevity Registered User Posts: 1,201 Senior Member
  • HindooHindoo Registered User Posts: 5,849 Senior Member
    What mflevity says--that's pretty much how my junior Carl daughter feels. :)
  • 828195828195 Registered User Posts: 17 New Member
    hahah i take that as "nonexistent"?
  • sky102118sky102118 Registered User Posts: 7 New Member
    well, according to the students I talked to during my accepted students days, something like 60% of Carleton grads marry other Carls.
    So I don't know what it says about the dating scene, but it says something!
  • LACalumLACalum Registered User Posts: 96 Junior Member
    A popular statistic (the 60% marriage one) but it's completely untrue. I used that one on many tours as a student only to later learn that it was a popular myth that got passed along. My sense is that this is a common feature of college tours (they are a little like the game "telephone"), some tour guide misunderstands a statistic and then uses it endlessly, they train a new tour guide who learns the same false statistic and then it takes off. I sometimes wonder how many things I said on my tours that I was certain were true and that in reality may have been based only on hearsay.
  • dadx3dadx3 Registered User Posts: 1,559 Senior Member
    In general, the primary modes of relationships at most colleges seem to be either serial monagamy or random hook-ups. There is not so much traditional dating. I'm not an expert on Carleton, but I imagine that it is little different from other colleges in this regard.
  • mflevitymflevity Registered User Posts: 1,201 Senior Member
    Yeah, the 60% thing is NOT true. Sure, plenty of Carls marry their classmates, but the same thing happens at all colleges.

    I just found the phrase "dating scene" hilarious, especially because it was in reference to Carleton.
  • griffengriffen Registered User Posts: 1,033 Senior Member
    It's funny how trends show up in LACs. I'm planning to apply to both Carleton and Grinnell in fall and I just got a mailing from Grinnell that says "during speeches and words of wisdom, the new Grinnellians learn one especially noteworth statistic: 60 percent of Grinnellians marry other Grinnellians." There's probably some truth underlying this stuff, but I think it's an odd coincidence that both schools throw out the same number. don't you?
  • binglebingle Registered User Posts: 427 Member
    60% is clearly too high, but here's what I've found:
    In 1949 a Carletonian article estimated that 12% of Carleton alums married other Carleton alums, and that a 1964 survey indicated that 17% of the alumni at that time were married to other alums.

    In the early 90's, an alum/staffer posted the following to an alum discussion board:
    The last time I counted, it was close to 20%. This is based on the following procedure. You create a list of alumni from the Advance database. Next you combine households, so that they only get one mailing. This reduces the list by about 10%. That means that 10% of the people are married to another 10% of the people.

    Now that process would erroneously include folks living together, but not married. At the same time, it would not count those who divorced or where a spouse was deceased.

    For 1978, there are 12% currently married to Carls.

    One thing I've found curious is the number of Carl/Carl marriages that started after college. One couple from '80 started dating after their 10th reunion. I know several couples who did not know each other at school, but subsequently met through friends.
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