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Choosing A Secondary School To Maximize College Changes


Replies to: Choosing A Secondary School To Maximize College Changes

  • ucbalumnusucbalumnus Registered User Posts: 72,936 Senior Member
    Freud007 wrote:
    One thing we will have to deal with if she ends up at School B is the reaction from parents at our school. The few we have mentioned our thoughts to are aghast that we would consider choosing a good local school over one that shows up on lists of the top 20 prep schools in the U.S.

    Why does it matter what other parents think? They may have different reasons (e.g. they may live closer to school A, so the commute time is less of an issue for them), but their situations are not the same as your situation.

    Here is how the daily time budget for school A comes out to be:

    7 hours of school
    1.67 hours of commuting
    5 hours of homework (if it cannot be done while commuting)
    = 13.67 hours

    That leaves 2.33 waking hours for all other weekday activities, including home life and extracurricular activities, if she sleeps 8 hours per night.
  • mothergoldenbearmothergoldenbear Registered User Posts: 298 Junior Member
    Which one does your child like better? I planned to enroll my son in a less competitive school, but when he went to visit, he didn't like the campus and student body. So we chose the School A-type campus. It's 20-25 minutes away in no traffic, but we allow 45 in the mornings. He studies on the way to school and we talk (and he eats) on the way home (there's usually less traffic so not enough time to get work done).
  • MYOS1634MYOS1634 Registered User Posts: 39,182 Senior Member
    edited February 2014
    Other parents will not have to bear the consequences of choosing School A. Your daughter will.
    Your reasoning is sound. Do what's good for your daughter. Don't sacrifice her to "others" who won't have to pay the consequences of what *they* think is best for her. You're her parent.

    You can just say "The commute is not worth it and School B is sufficiently challenging."'

    As for "lesser Ivies"... O_o Seriously. There's a world outside of the Ivy League. If that's the kind of thinking at School A, then you do your daughter a huge additional favor by choosing School B: allowing her to find herself and figure out what colleges will be the best "fit" rather than choosing what will impress her friends' parents...
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