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Scared I will not get into college


Replies to: Scared I will not get into college

  • washugradwashugrad Registered User Posts: 978 Member
    Check out the Colleges that Change Lives consortium. Not all of them will be the right fit for you but there are probably a couple of them that could be. There are over 2000 4 year colleges in the US and most of them are not highly selective. You hear the most about the ones that are (highly selective) but there are many schools out there for kids like you, especially if you have financial resources.
  • KnowsstuffKnowsstuff Registered User Posts: 2,950 Senior Member
    Ctcl has my vote also. Talk to your parents about biofeedback. It helps the depression, anxiety and adhd. It doesn't take a lot of sessions to see results. Adhd and anxiety go hand in hand. Maybe your not seeing the correct doctor. But just being put on adhd meds is not the answer either. There are different types and not all do the same things.

    Get accommodations for your school work.

    There are also colleges for everyone. A lot of kids with your symptoms don't even start doing well until college. But you will most likely need accommodations. Have your parents get you tested with an educational psychologist. The accommodations just level the playing field for those that need it. It's your right to get all the help you need. It's not just you. Many students need the help to become successful in life.
  • KnowsstuffKnowsstuff Registered User Posts: 2,950 Senior Member
    BTW - do this :https://www.alpha-stim.com/

    It works well and I have experience with it. Have your parents look into this with you. It is simpler to use then expected. It's been around for like 30 years.
  • MYOS1634MYOS1634 Registered User Posts: 41,280 Senior Member
    Your curriculum is good and college preparatory.
    Look at schools where you won't just be a number, are supportive rather than competitive, with down to earth students. For example, Luther in Iowa, St Michaels' in Vermont, Augustana in Illinois, Guilford in North Carolina...
    Dean is another good idea since they provide specific support.
    Finally, there are Community colleges with dorms, such as TC3 in New York state.
  • LindagafLindagaf Registered User Posts: 9,107 Senior Member
    Why are you scared? You are really young and have many years ahead of you to not only attend college, but also to work, play, and discover. I spent six years getting a degree, all while working, traveling the world, and having fun with friends. I had a bad start in college, due to my own foolishness, but I ended up making the Dean’s List. I wasn’t wise enough, unlike you, to ask for advice and it made my journey a lot more difficult.

    @MYOS1634 is correct. A community college with dorms might be a good choice for you. My best friend’s son is currently dorming at a CC and is having a wonderful time. You want to meet people and have a fun experience, but please remember that the primary reason for attending college is to get an education. College is a step up from high school. It comes with a lot more responsibility. Professors are demanding, and you will have a tough time maintaining reasonable grades if you, for example, do poorly on your first test. In college, it’s very tough to bounce back when you get off to a rocky start, as I know too well.

    You could benefit greatly from having time away from homework, tests, and studying. Take time to get a job, volunteer, or, if your parents can afford it, participate in some of the many gap year options available. Gap years are becoming very popular. My College Guide .org has a nice article about 75 things to do in a gap year.

    You have time to decide. I do think you should do some test prep and try to get your score up. That could be very helpful to your choices if you aim for a four year college. Understand that you have options. You WILL go to college, but take time to consider what’s going to be best for you in the long run, and try to prevent unfounded fears from dictating your actions.
  • SomeWhereNTheSkySomeWhereNTheSky Registered User Posts: 17 Junior Member
    I am going to be honest: I think for many, going straight to a four year university just isn’t the right move. Especially if you struggled in high school. I was dead set on going straight to a big university after going to an alternative high school with class sizes of 12. I had a 3.8 gpa, and I did horrible my first year. So bad that I decided the full ride scholarship wasn’t worth it and came home to go to a cc, even though they were willing to work with me. I recommend doing CC so you can one- save a lot of money, and two have a smoother transfer into college life. Bad grades in college can haunt you. I also have found in my area anyway, the CC professors care a lot more about their students success and progress than those at the Universities. Don’t get me wrong, there are still great professors at the Us but not as many that really will invest themselves in the success of their students. This also depends greatly on class size in my experience but it’s something to keep in mind.
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