This post is the update to: http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/college-admissions/588027-how-can-i-avoid-conselor-recommendation-she-hates-me.html
Okay.... so it's official now:
-- She checked Below Average for personal qualities and character
-- She wrote about how I haven't respected people (I didn't read the letter, but she implied this) and other things along that line
-- She refuses to let me see it
-- My mom attempted to call her and speak with her about this and she avoided the phone call, then when I had her call my mom back, she dodged that as well
-- I very much suspect her letter borders on slander...
-- I know my two teacher recommendations wrote very very positively about me (I read one and it was very good and very specific -- and the other I know will be very good as well)
-- My supplemental is from my principal/superintendent (the same person does same job) and is very positive quote from it "Neal has repeatedly demonstrated strong leadership skills, dependability, and intelligent lifestyle." and "one of the most intelligent young men I have worked with" .... It's not too specific but it's definitely positive.
She claims that she can't write me a decent letter based on her "ethics" and "honesty." (and I use quote marks because those two words are her claims about herself.... not truthful assessments). Apparently, she thinks I am a horrible person who has no regard for anyone else, or at least, that's what she implies. This is NOT true. I know I will be successful wherever I go, and I KNOW I don't have problems with other people.... I get along with more people than the average person at my school does... I don't understand it... all I expect is an at least neutral letter, I don't expect an adoring/raving/amazing letter....
AHHH I AM FREAKING OUT!!!! Will my supplemental/teacher recs overshadow the counselor's utterly horrible recommendation??? Is there anything I can do on my end to rebut her negativity? It's unjustified and undeserved!