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Asking this Girl Out

PuffyShirtPuffyShirt Registered User Posts: 1 New Member
edited February 2013 in College Confidential Cafe
So my two roommates and I have been hanging out with our female neighbors for quite some time now (about 7 months). It seems like one of the girls (lets call her Jessica) and I have really good chemistry. She laughs at all my jokes and seems extra flirty towards me compared to my other roommates. We also have a lot in common. The way I know I really like her is that I have never really fantasied about us doing anything physical; I just think about us holding hands and talking. The reason I haven't asked her out yet is because I'm really bad at this stuff, and also I'm worried I might ruin the friendship we already have.

One of my roommates already has a girlfriend, but it seems like my other roommate (lets call him Mike) might like Jessica as much as I do, which is a lot. Although I don't show it, it really angers me how Mike talks about Jessica when she's not around. Even when she is around he talk about all the girls he's "hooked up" with. To me, it seems like talking about that stuff would be a major turn off to a girl, but what do I know. Mike is a good guy; I just think he feels he needs to impress the guys by saying stuff like this.

Anyway, I guess I'm saying that when I ask this girl out, which will be the next time I get a chance to talk to her alone, I'm going to feel really good inside because Mike won't be able to say those things about her. I know it is weird that this bothers me so much, but I just think it is interesting because I haven't even gotten romantically involved with this girl yet, and I already feeling protective.

So hopefully, I'll be able to asked her out in the coming days. Any advice for dating in college would be appreciated and wish me good luck.
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Replies to: Asking this Girl Out

  • emprexemprex Registered User Posts: 721 Member
    Just be a man and ask her. Be confident.

    Worst comes to worst, there are other fish in the sea. Getting rejected is one of the sweetest feelings in life. I can't wait until I get rejected from my dream school. ****.
  • valeasvaleas Registered User Posts: 168 Junior Member
    lol become the alpha of the pack, talk a bit then ask her out
  • Cens10Cens10 Registered User Posts: 732 Member
    ^ listen to these guys. Can't get her if she never knows you like her
  • TheIceKingTheIceKing Registered User Posts: 6 New Member
    The nerve-wracking feeling of asking the girl out that you are romantically interested in; probably one of the greatest yet horrifying feelings in the world.

    Sadly, you're going to -have- to communicate her in-person and basically pour your heart out onto this girl. You're both already friends, so there's obviously some sort of comfort zone of which you can talk to her.

    Don't fear the rejection. Sure, it's not the best thing for the ego, but it would be better to find out if she could possibly be interested in you as well, rather than never ask her and have her scamper off to the next guy that'll pick her up.

    Best of the luck to ya, 'mate.
    And in the event of the worse-case scenario, have a backup plan. Mine would be watching Flash Gordon while buying a budgeted amount of junk food to eat on.
  • sosomenzasosomenza - Posts: 2,122 Senior Member
    You must hurry and ask. You are quickly entering the friend zone. BTW going to Starbucks be considered a date. (Please Pay!)
  • emprexemprex Registered User Posts: 721 Member
    Keep us updated
  • Cens10Cens10 Registered User Posts: 732 Member
    ^ Seriously! I wanna know what happens!
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