My fiance and I are both preparing to apply to professional schools in the coming years (I am applying to law/graduate school and he is applying to medical school). We are looking at schools in the same areas to try and find out what kind of qualifications we need to hold to be considered eligible for admissions. However, we both have different ideas about what kind of place we see ourselves living in. I'm more keen on states such as Colorado, Arizona, Nevada, New Mexico, etc. The west, to speak generally. He, on the other hand, wants to live in a big city.
I'm not trying to say that he doesn't know what he's getting himself into, but what he doesn't understand is that big cities in the U.S. aren't like big cities in his home country of Norway. He's used to cities like Oslo and Bergen, which are absolutely miniscule in comparison to cities in the United States.
How can I help him understand that I don't want to move to a big city for good reason. A big city isn't the kind of environment either of us are familiar with, and I want to avoid being overwhelmed at all costs while studying to get my J.D. He is more excited about the idea of big city life and doesn't seem to see the practicality in focusing on a pleasant experience, as opposed to an exciting one.
Any advice, both for and against my argument, would be appreciated.