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No friends in college - depressed?

DukeNukem001DukeNukem001 Registered User Posts: 6 New Member
edited October 2016 in College Confidential Cafe
To be blunt, I currently attend a university and have to make a single friend (as in someone to eat with, hang out with, party with, even talk to..), and I'm starting to feel really depressed about it. I've been at this university for roughly a year, and I am still puzzled as to how I have not managed to connect with anyone. I tried joining some clubs, but what I found is that people just cling to THEIR friends and I just sit there like a bump on a log.

All of my roommates are cool, however they (for the most part) just do things with their own friends and I'm just left out. I occasionally chill with one of my roommates in this gazebo near our apartment , however we don't -do- anything outside of that (like hanging out, partying,) so it really kind of sucks. At one point out of total desperation I pretty much just invited myself to come along with him and one of his friends, but their responses were just "hm" and that was it (aka, they didn't want me coming to wherever and it was pretty obvious). I was also hoping to meet a female, because when I attended my local community college there was no sense of school pride (people just went to class, then went home), so meeting a girl was damn near impossible for me.

I think the main reason why this bothers me so much is that, in the past, I have had friends just pretty much blow me off, so I guess that explains why this has sent me off the edge for awhile now.

It honestly just rips me apart to think that this is APPARENTLY supposed to be the time of my life, and here I am pretty much just set up to do what I did for the last two years at my community college (play Xbox, drink, occasionally hangout with my friends, but for the most part spend time alone). My parents feel really bad for me and they worry about me I think - I don't blame them, I worry about myself sometimes too.

And as for my degree progress -it feels like I'm going nowhere fast. My grades aren't horrible, however they could be much better. I've actually entertained myself of dropping out of this college and going back to my community college to obtain a Cyber Security certificate, where I'd get a job from there. I talked to the head of the department, and she said that the cert is a very strong one, and employment should be readily available. Not going to lie, when I heard that I was pretty much just convinced to drop out and go do that. But I just don't know if I can go through 3 (possibly 4 ffs) more years of this university in an attempt to get my Bachelors degree.

I don't know though, advice? All of my friends are back there, and because I attend a college so far away from home, at times it makes wonder what it would have been like if I attended a school closer to home. There have been times where I'd just pretty much sleep in all day because I knew that I had nowhere to go, nothing to do other than just study, etc. And the worst part about it is, I have now reverted back to my reserved, shy self. The first few weeks at this university I was so open and bubbly, and now it's just worn off. Back to square one.

TLDR; Have not met a single friend over the course of roughly a year, am extremely depressed, thinking of transferring back to my community college to pursue a certificate and land a job from there, regret not choosing a college closer to home, etc. Advice?
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