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Hi, I'm a skinny asian rising Freshman acne ridden kid who has no idea what's going on.
Last month, my very proud and dare-I-say overconfident parents brought me to a tour to 3 different Ivy League Universities (Princeton, Yale, UPenn). Before then, I never thought about college just like any other mindless middle schooler/freshman, but this sudden amount pressure and previously not-known information (including several abbreviations), all leading up to my future college path.
I come from a community where Asians happen to be the majority of demographics in my county, which happens to be in Virginia (I'm assuming y'all know where I'm talking about), where it's quite common to see skinny acne ridden asian kids like me stress over SAT scores and Ivy League schools during high school (or so I thought we were the only special nerds). This all changed when I saw people from college tours and the College Confidential community, to see that alot of people here have seriously impressive ECs, leaderships in Model UN, NHS, and alot of very intimidating, yet impressive stuff.
With that being said, my parents told me to not worry about it, considering I haven't even entered high school yet, which these long 4 years would ultimately be the largest factor in shaping my college path. Previously, I would think that one or two leadership positions, volunteering at churches, and maybe a successful audition in a major arts group would almost automatically land you in some prestigious Ivy League school as long as you had killer SAT scores and a good GPA, in which I later found out after a long time of looking at University Acceptance result threads.
On the topic of my major, or the general direction of my education after high school, my family has a peculiar history of education amongst the stereotypical strict "You need to be doctor" asian family (which is surprisingly very common where alot of my friend's future decisions are almost completely influenced by their parents), my dad was a computer software engineer and my mother was an opera singer (no doctors or lawyers here y'all). My parents were very lenient in the topic of choosing my career. But when I visited my grandparents in Korea, my grandfather said "The Park family must and always persevere in math!", which actually pissed off my mother, with my mom lecturing me the very next day on why math isn't everything. And surprisingly, math isn't my "favorite" subject (although I'm told to say that I "LOVE math" when an elderly person asks me what my favorite subject is) just like everyone else. It's actually towards the side of Civics, politics, law, etc. My parents were very glad to hear that their son wasn't interested in something like music, and would rather have their son become a lawyer rather than some kind of starving musician. After hearing that, I googled hundreds of times (in which I'm not saying this in a hyperbolic manner), on the "Top schools for Law", only to find out Law schools were for people who finished being an undergrad (you can see I have a pattern of literally knowing nothing about the ins and outs of Universities). So I turned to the next best thing for an undergrad for me, which was political science. After being told I was forbidden to be interested in schools anymore further than Michigan, I settled on places like Georgetown. My parents were very discouraged to see me "underestimate his ability and his potential" and suggested me schools like Princeton, Harvard, or Yale. This confusion plagued me for the next month, asking if my parents really thought I had potential, or were the stereotypical parents who think their kid can do everything and complain to the teacher to give him better grades.
So yea, that's my very short story so far, feel free to ask me any questions! Sorry if this was very confusing itself, as I tend to get off topic sometimes.
(All credible information is greatly appreciated)