Our 17 year old senior has had a boyfriend for the past few months. Nice kid, albeit not as "motivated" academically as she is ;) But that's not the issue. When he comes over, my daughter insists on closing her bedroom door when he's in there. Often times she'll be reading or on the computer with schoolwork while he's watching tv. Since he doesn't take a rigorous course load , I've never seen him with homework.
Other times they'll both be watching a movie while cuddled up on the bed or just laying there and talking. Sometimes entwined. I've made a point of being close by and have no qualms about peeking in from time to time. However, I still don't feel comfortable knowing they're in there, normal teenagers with raging hormones.
When I asked my daughter to please keep the door open, she was very indignant and both she and her boyfriend felt insulted that I would even THINK that they would be doing "anything!" I just feel it's not appropriate. It just bothers me. And I wish my husband was more verbal about it, as well. I think he prefers to put blinders on and be in denial. He likes to leave the discipline up to me. Aarrrggh. I'm always the bad guy. :(
Anyway, my daughter feels I don't trust her. I realize if they're having sex they will find a way. But why should I encourage it? Am I being unreasonable asking that she keeps her door open when her boyfriend is in there alone with her?