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I'm really, really, REALLY considering dropping out

JLottieBJLottieB Registered User Posts: 1 New Member
edited February 2012 in College Life
I HATE COLLEGE!!! It's not a matter of grades, social issues, money or anything of that sort. I just can't seem to get myself interested at all. Everyday I go to class and all I think about is how much I hate my life. It is a struggle just to get out of my bed just to go to class. I've actually become depressed and somewhat suicidal (I won't actually do it. I would hate myself even more for how I'd left my family). I'm in my 2nd semester of my 2nd year and I've had at least 1 or 2 fun classes splashed with the rest of my load but I can't even get motivated for those. I've been forcing myself into all of my classes and it's driving me insane. I would much prefer to go straight into the work force; The only reason I haven't dropped out yet is because I'm a little bit of a money whore and really don't want to work in a crappy, dirt-poor paying job.

P.s. I'm a business major because I am interested in the business world (specifically the marketing and analytical areas)

Help or ideas?
Post edited by JLottieB on

Replies to: I'm really, really, REALLY considering dropping out

  • clarinette52clarinette52 Registered User Posts: 709 Member
    Go to the counseling center at your school. I'm sure they've helped people with your situation before.
  • paperbackheadpaperbackhead Registered User Posts: 218 Junior Member
    perhaps you could go abroad in an upcoming semester? Give yourself a change of scene with a little more direct application to your life without actually dropping out. Also try joining a fun club or team while you're still on campus.
  • Ricky93Ricky93 Registered User Posts: 147 Junior Member
    I'm probably not the best person to give you advice, considering I probably hate college as much as you do, but that doesn't mean I'm not logical about it. Let's face it, without a college degree you're going to be making less than someone with one. There aren't too many decent-paying jobs out there that don't require a college degree, and even the ones that don't, someone with a degree is considered to be more attractive and get the position over you because of the skills they qualify for on paper.

    Just rough it out, and you'll reap the benefits later on. Especially in today's economy? Definetley.

    And you're a buisiness major? I have a growing and expanding business and if you're interested you could always message me.
  • BatlloBatllo - Posts: 3,047 Senior Member
    Be practical for a moment.
    You've paid for this semester so finish it and get the credits in case you want to go back to college in the future.
    You can vent, rant but if you want to leave school then have a plan before you drop out.
    Be a grown up about leaving school not just running away from the responsibility/accountability of doing well in college.
  • sqdwfe13sqdwfe13 Registered User Posts: 1,261 Senior Member
    I don't know if this is an option at this point in your college career, but consider transferring? Maybe the style of teaching and class sizes and general atmosphere just isn't for you. I was at a big university last semester and was miserable, totally unmotivated, and failing all my classes, and I thought that was just because college wasn't right for me. However I'm at a small college with small classes now, and I'm actually enjoying going to class and doing readings and other assignments for my classes. I truly cannot imagine not having transferred. It's possible to like college if you're in the right place.

    Other than that, I'd say study abroad if it's possible, and just stick it out as much as you can. You've made it so far already, and you're getting closer to graduation. Getting a college degree is so worth it and will make your life so much easier when it comes to getting jobs.

    If you're really set on not finishing college though, I've heard that a college degree isn't important in the hospitality industry, and while you'll start out low you can work your way up the ladder. That could be something you may want to look into.
  • teachandmomteachandmom Registered User Posts: 1,244 Senior Member
    Finish this semester. Then, if you still feel the same way, before you have to start paying for the fall, take a leave of absence. Find a full time job and work for a year. If at the end of that year, you prefer working, then just find a local 4 year school you can transfer to where you can take courses part-time until you finish your degree. If, on the other hand, at the end of a year you discover working is a drag, you can then go back to school and realize you'll be working for the rest of your life once school is done! Maybe then it will help you enjoy school. You could even still go abroad for the spring of your "junior" year if you would like. Good luck. If you have taken any loans for school, remember that you will most likely have to start repaying them within 6 months of stopping school.
  • funfatdaddyfunfatdaddy Registered User Posts: 353 Member
    I agree with teachandmom. If you seriously are considering dropping out, a leave of absence offers you the option to return after one or two semesters. I took a leave from an Ivy many moons ago and it worked out very well for me. Working or volunteering may give you an entirely different perspective and allow you to finish strongly. I would make sure you are either working or volunteering full time during your leave.
    I definitely would advise against dropping out now. A leave of absence keeps the door open for a smooth return.
  • OminousRunOminousRun Registered User Posts: 690 Member
    FWIW, finding a job (that pays decent) without a college degree is next to impossible in this day and age.

    The unemployment rate for people with only a high school diploma is currently 8.4%, compared to 4.2%.

    But here's the real kicker, the labor participation rate for those with only a high school diploma is 59%, compared to 75% for those with a college degree. That makes the "real" unemployment rate among high school grads considerably higher. The labor participation rate has fallen over 1% among HS grads in the past year. That means that people with HS diplomas are dropping out of the work force because they can't find work.
  • studentengineerstudentengineer - Posts: 216 Junior Member
    Take a break, get a job, and realize how much your life will suck without going to school.
    You actually should be happy/grateful in the position you're in. hopefully it'll slap you across the face one day and make you realize.
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  • LivingWithFaithLivingWithFaith Registered User Posts: 42 Junior Member
    Well, you know, it's called being an adult. Of course there are gonna be parts of life that suck or are sooo boring that you want to jump out of your skin. But sometimes, those times pay off, like college, and how you'll hopefully be on your way to having a decent income when you're done. Try not to waste so much energy on thinking about how much you hate your classes and focus it on your specific friends in those classes and whatever plans you all have after class. We all know school is boring, it's been that way since K-12, lol, but you've gotta suck it up. Don't drop out.
  • gator4evergator4ever Registered User Posts: 553 Member
    I suggest you do this:
    #1 go to the school counseling psych department trust me these people have seen it ALL. And when you go to them keep an open mind listen listen and then listen some more.

    #2. if the couselors do not fill your needs? I suggest to try to finish this semester.

    #3. then take a semester or even two off 1 year if needed. Find a job doing something HARD I am talking roofer, landscaping, something physical that will leave you aching everyday.

    WHY do I suggest #3? When I was a sophomore I told my parents that I college was not for me. So my Dad's response was OK fine finish the semester and come home and start working. At the end of the semester I went home and found a job. It was a hard job very physical by the time registration came for the next semester I was dying to go back to school.

    The problem is simple without an education you will spend the rest of your life being told what to do. When to do it. How well to do it. So your freedoms will be restricted. Forget about vacations. Sure some companies will give you a week off. But you wont be able to afford to take time off.

    Lets say you happen to make $600 per week which is $15 per hour which is a lot of money for someone just starting out. So you have approximately $1800 per month after deductions to live on. If you find an apartment in the $800 range you are left with $250 per week to live on. Car payments, gasoline, insurance. clothing and oh yes I forgot food.

    SO it is your decision. This is a permanent decision one that will affect the rest of your life. If you need to change schools, or change your major? DO IT.

    Go to the couselor tomorrow dont wait another day.

    And good luck to you. Just make sure to think real hard before you act.
  • StarstuckStarstuck Registered User Posts: 337 Member
    I'm in the same boat as you, just keep hanging in there! Worst case scenario you can withdraw from the university for a semester and come back the next as a student.
  • rymdrymd - Posts: 1,055 Senior Member
    do what i do and skim by on the minimum course requirements for success and then play games and watch movies all day
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