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How do I overcome shyness,anxiety, talk to self?

1chester1chester Registered User Posts: 20 New Member
edited June 2012 in College Life

I have a few quirks about myself. I'm extremely shy til I feel more comfortable in class then I feel like it is easy to talk to a few people.

My anxiety level is through the roof though.

One thing that is pretty difficult for me to overcome is that I talk to myself.

I have an overactive mind or something. I don't know why but I talk to myself by doing math problems by hand saying stuff outloud you know kinda like on a whiteboard alone doing homework assignments or something. I even sing to myself. Seriously, I know it looks weird to other people but how do I overcome all this especially the talking to myself part?

I'm not some creepy goth looking girl from the children of the corn movie. :-)

I hate to introduce myself in class. Would it be strange to just tell them my name and that I'm shy?

Thanks for your time! I'd appreciate any good suggestions on how to overcome this.
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Replies to: How do I overcome shyness,anxiety, talk to self?

  • enfieldacademyenfieldacademy - Posts: 2,321 Senior Member
    there's a roaring social anxiety forum that you might want to visit. it's called the social axiety support forum i think :).
  • AUGirlAUGirl Registered User Posts: 2,890 Senior Member
    You and I sound a bit alike. Depending on the situation, I can be really shy when I get into a new place, but once I know people I'm not at all afraid to speak up. Other times, it's not super difficult for me to be social. I haven't really figured out 'when' I'm really social around new people and when I'm not.

    I don't usually have anxiety problems, but I definitely do talk to myself. I googled it once and concluded that it wasn't actually that weird. If you watch movies and TV shows, even the character talk to themselves a lot of times. (IE: Guy playing basketball, "He shoots and he scores! The crowd goes wild!!" or Dennis saying to himself after a girl leaves "Why the heck did you do that Dennis? That was so stupid. Now she's going to think you're weird!".

    I think as long as you know the people you're talking to (I don't know if you talk to others) aren't real, I don't think it's a problem and it's probably more common than you think. And to me it doesn't sound like you're self-talking is even that big of a deal. You talk to yourself to figure out a math problem and sing to yourself... neither are that strange. People develop ways to cope learning material, and for you talking might help you learn/solve math.
  • reesezpiecez103reesezpiecez103 Registered User Posts: 1,246 Senior Member
    I talk to myself - I actually can't study without saying the information out loud, so I always reserve a study room to myself when I have a big exam or stay in my room. That might help with the talking to yourself while you do homework. Like AUGirl, I googled it once because I also tend to mutter to myself sometimes (i.e., closing the fridge and mumbling "crap, what the hell am I going to eat?" or looking at my watch and saying aloud "shoot, I'm going to be late" and the works), and while I've maybe gotten one or two strange looks most people don't seem to care - I don't think it's that uncommon.

    About being shy - I was pretty quiet when I was younger, and to be honest the only thing that helped me to be more open was becoming more confident in who I am. I was in a soccer carpool once where the three other girls were all best friends and I always felt like the outsider, so every time before I got into the car, I told myself that the only thing keeping me from joining in their conversations was my own shyness. Sounds cheesy, but it worked - as soon as I became a little more talkative, I was incorporated into most of the conversations. In my experience, people don't necessarily acknowledge everyone in a group unless everyone is talking/contributing a little bit. It doesn't thrill me, but over and over, I've seen people feel "excluded" (and felt that way myself) until they involved themselves a little bit, and then it was a lot better.
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