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Roommate Issues

TigerbTigerb Registered User Posts: 317 Junior Member
edited November 2012 in College Life
Hey guys. I've been having some issues with my college dorm roommate for a while now and was hoping you guys could perhaps offer some suggestions on how to mediate and resolve them.

I was roomed with a random person and we have not necessarily become friends since school started in August. We never have conversations with each other, and share about 3-4 words per day.

The first issue that I'm having with him is his sleeping habits. He sleeps literally all day. All. Day. Every. Day. He gets up for his morning classes, returns to the dorm around 11am and proceeds to sleep until 5-6 in the evening. He then leaves and returns back to the dorm around 2am and the process repeats. This is entirely frustrating for me, as I don't sleep near as much as he does, which forces me to be quiet and do my work in the dark to keep from disturbing him. I'm unable to watch TV, turn the lights on, make loud movements, etc. simply out of my respect for him.

Another issue that I'm having is his sanitary habits, or lack thereof. We share a stack bathroom with 4 other guys, but my roommate seems to have an issue with flushing the toilet after he uses it and lifting the toilet seat when he pees. It's simply disgusting. I also hardly ever seem him take showers--literally since we've lived together, I've only known him to have taken 3 or so.

I think the situation that pushed me over the edge to post this was what occurred this morning. For some reason he decided to wake up at 7:30am and play a stupid game on the TV with the volume up while I was trying to sleep. Never have I ever turned on the TV when I woke up before him, nor have I ever made as much noise as he did this morning when he's sleeping. While I'm conscious of not allowing the door to slam when he's sleeping, he is not.

What do I do?
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Replies to: Roommate Issues

  • Kcpk54Kcpk54 Registered User Posts: 22 New Member
    Hmm try to politely remind the person to flush the toilet? Say it's like to stop the spread of germs and i'm sure your other roommates are facing the same dilemma.

    But if not, talk to your ra about the problem and see if they can fix it. Or ask them if you can transfer out to a single dorm or another dorm?
  • TigerbTigerb Registered User Posts: 317 Junior Member
    I had actually posted a sign in the bathroom for a few weeks remding people to flush the toilet and I had signed it off as an RA. But unfortunately it didn't work.
  • Crimsonstained7Crimsonstained7 Registered User Posts: 1,300 Senior Member
    I'd talk to him about every single one of these problems, respectfully, of course. If he refuses to work with you on these issues, then go to the RA. Those are MAJOR issues that need to be fixed, one way or another. The RA should deal with it, and if not, then go higher up until it's fixed. His sleeping habits are disturbing your life, his sanitation is proving a health issue, and just a quality of life issue, and him not being respectful of you sleeping is a problem.
  • collegeboi1992collegeboi1992 Registered User Posts: 16 New Member
    Try to talk to him directly. If he does not want to engage, then get help from his/her friends or your friends to resolve the matter peacefully. If things are still not working, then talk to the dorm and student life representatives. Maybe get the room changed or communicate to him...
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