I've been homesick ever since the I got here and it has only gotten worse. I've gone out and tried to make friends but I find more and more that I really don't like the university I'm at. It's been really hard for me to adjust to the school because their lifestyles are much different than mine (it might be a cultural thing). I come from LA and my university is about 4 hours from home in a small town that doesn't have a whole lot to do.
I have been seriously considering transferring to the CC nearby my house and taking enough classes to get enough credits to transfer into the university near my house so I can commute from home.
I've already told my parents about my homesickness and they've almost completely rejected the idea saying that I'm giving up too easily and not trying hard enough. They tell me to forget about friends (and basically all happiness) and to just concentrate on school.
They even gave me an ultimatum that if I HAVE to finish the year off and next year if I decide to transfer to the CC I'd have to pay for it myself (which wouldn't be too bad as it's super cheap anyways). And I've checked, all of my classes transfer from the CC to the university (and if I get a majority of my credits done at the CC, I get priority admission too, giving me a better chance at being accepted too)
People tell me to do what makes me happy and I really think transferring back home would make me happy. It'd be hard going day by day with my parents glaring at me with shame but it'd be much better financially and emotionally and they would get over it eventually. I've been miserable here at this university. It may be the homesickness blinding me but I really don't like the people or the town. I cry every night, and more now as the quarter is coming to an end (and finals are coming up). I've thrown my head into the books but it's just hard.
I know that if I do decide to transfer I won't regret leaving. I still want to transfer to the university back home either way to save money so I can blow it all on grad school. I suppose it's just a matter of should I transfer to a CC now or wait 2 years and then go back home?
I've just been so confused and stressed out, I've talked to a counselor here and they basically told me to try to make friends first before I decide to leave. And I've made friends, good ones too. But I find that it's not enough to get over the love I have for my family and my hometown. (What can I say, LA's the best!) It's just not the same.
So then what's your advice? Stay and fight the storm or leave and bear the shame, hoping that either way it'll all turn out all right in the end?
And is there anybody out there who reverse transferred? How was your experience like?
Any advice, some pointers, and words of wisdom would be helpful.