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Going off to college without any dating experience-is that bad?

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Replies to: Going off to college without any dating experience-is that bad?

  • charlieschmcharlieschm Registered User Posts: 4,282 Senior Member
    This is turning into a Rush Limbaugh piece (remember when he called a Georgetown Law Student a slut for wanting subsidized birth control?) This was after Limbaugh came through customs on his way back from the Dominican Republic (after one of his many divorces) with a half-used packet of Viagra.
  • maizeandblue21maizeandblue21 Registered User Posts: 634 Member
    ^Which is funny because while most CC kids are socially very reserved and don't really know what goes on at most big state schools on a weekly basis, most CC kids would also probably classify as liberal.
  • clonetoxclonetox Registered User Posts: 51 Junior Member
    I'm not going to put my moral two cents into this, but I do have one point to make. Do not move in without getting married. This doesn't really deal with being a freshman, so it will be a while, but the statistics prove it. If you plan on getting married, you are WAY more likely to get divorced if you live together before that.

    Yes, probably because people who refuse to move in together before marriage are religious and conservative and would never divorce under any circumstances. Whereas those move in together before marriage don't really think divorce is a big deal and are not religious.
  • ThalieosThalieos Registered User Posts: 29 New Member
    Or because they're probably purple-dinosaurs who are unable to reconcile their self-loathing because they're secretly aliens from Mars...

    Since we're making uninformed assumptions. Or could it be that moving in before marriage introduces a whole new level of potential stress and conflict. Speaking from experience as a semi-conservative libertarian who went through a divorce despite my religious misgivings about it.
  • clonetoxclonetox Registered User Posts: 51 Junior Member
    My post discussed a third variable that may explain the correlation. Can someone link the study? Does it adequately control for this variable?

    It's odd for me to see people with no dating experience adamantly exclaim how they will "never have sex before marriage" or that people "should not cohabit before marriage." Do they have any personal knowledge relevant to this discussion beyond what someone preached to them?
  • romanigypsyeyesromanigypsyeyes Registered User Posts: 33,577 Senior Member
    Once again, the statistics show no such thing. That was taken care of up thread.
  • mblacksmblacks Registered User Posts: 2 New Member
    You should probably get some sort of practice. Even if you don't feel uncomfortable at your college, it'll still give you more confidence.
  • DizzyingDizzying Registered User Posts: 168 Junior Member
    The "premier dictionary reference" also includes "heart" as a verb, as in "I heart you" and "woot." Forgive me if I don't lose sleep because a dictionary says I'm a slut.
  • ThalieosThalieos Registered User Posts: 29 New Member
    "The "premier dictionary reference" also includes "heart" as a verb, as in "I heart you" and "woot." Forgive me if I don't lose sleep because a dictionary says I'm a slut."

    Good for you. You are comfortable with your behavior fitting the accepted definition of what a slut is, as well as what others consider to be a slut. Good on you for encouraging a young, college-bound woman to engage in casual sex practices.

    "It's odd for me to see people with no dating experience adamantly exclaim how they will "never have sex before marriage" or that people "should not cohabit before marriage." Do they have any personal knowledge relevant to this discussion beyond what someone preached to them?"

    I've dated, I've been married, etc. I already shared my relevant experiences.

    OP should make her own decisions, but know that casual sex with multiple partners (as a male or female) fits the definition and criteria for being a slut/slattern. You can argue semantics, whether it is fact or opinion and even try to discredit the source which details the criteria and definition for being a slut; doesn't change a thing.

    Enjoy!
  • BMEPREMEDgirlBMEPREMEDgirl Registered User Posts: 138 Junior Member
    This thread bring up so many of my fears
  • bungalowdwellerbungalowdweller Registered User Posts: 158 Junior Member
    BMEPREMEDgirl---don't read this thread if it's upsetting. It's gotten w-a-y off topic and the OP has signed off. You don't need the aggravation. I'm signing off as well! This is the season of CHEER! Don't let anything bother you!
  • shuvaxshuvax Registered User Posts: 19 New Member
    Lol so what if you haven't dated or even kissed a guy. I haven't dated a girl and I'm a senior. Just talk to people and you'll see your in the same boat as them. By talking to people you can also get off the boat ;p
  • cty4evercty4ever Registered User Posts: 156 Junior Member
    yearbookstalker, your post made me feel a lot better. Mostly because I would never want to ask anyone this question. I dan't have an identical situation, but it's similar enough for me to have wondered the same things.
    My first relationship (and only one to date) was a long distance one. We met at an academic programme, ended up kissing on the last day, went on a single date a week later (he lived locally and I was still in town) and haven't seen each other since. Our relationship was carried out entirely through Facebook and Skype. Actually, I think you might be in the better situation here—better to have no experience and be able to truthfuly say that than have to say you do, but only in a long distance relationship.
    Oh, on the sex thing that has come up a million and one times now: people aren' always "saving themselves" for reason a, b, or c. Some, like me, have a very hard time reconciling the the possible negative outcomes of sex with the possibility of it being a pleasurable experience.

    Oh, given what I've been given from other people on the whole long-distance relationship thing, I'd like to say I'm the one who broke it off because he was clingy, not the other way around.
  • BeeRodBeeRod Registered User Posts: 5 New Member
    It's not all that bad. I didn't have my first boyfriend until the very last day of high school (knew him for all 4 years but clicked during Senior Prom). Before that, I only been on 2 separate dates during high school, both during my Senior year. While it didn't work out, I was able to prepare to see new people at college. Within the first week, I was constantly asked out by guys at campus. Went on plenty of dates through out the entire first semester (no sex) but nothing worked out, except for one (who I end up marrying... but that's another story).

    Unlike high school, college gives someone more options to pick from. Plus, you don't have parents telling you who you can or can not date anymore. I'm glad I didn't date much during high school because I was able to focus on school and enjoying my high school years with little to no drama.
  • LTLC123017LTLC123017 Registered User Posts: 7 New Member
    It's okay to be single still. Your true love will come one day you just have to be patient. And when the right guy comes don trash into things or you'll regret it
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