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Dorms: how did you choose who got which bed?

CalDad2013CalDad2013 24 replies5 threads New Member
edited August 2013 in College Life
How did you choose who got which bed in a double or triple dorm? Especially rooms with bunk beds. First to show up threw his/her stuff on one of the beds and claimed it, or flip a coin? Did you feel your process was fair? Just curious.
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  • sopranokittysopranokitty 1357 replies16 threads Senior Member
    My roommate claimed her bed before I even got there without emailing me to ask me. We were both supposed to move in on the same day, but she moved in a day earlier. Luckily for her, I didn't mind the higher captain-style bed formation (hers was closer to the ground while mine had the drawer placed underneath).
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  • Niquii77Niquii77 9994 replies110 threads Senior Member
    My roommate ambushed me. She just out and asked, "Can I have (insert my desire bed space)?" I mean...I guess I'm fine with it. What can you really do? There's other things to fuss and fret over.

    I'm moving in earlier than them. But at least I grt to have everything settled before they come in.
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  • intparentintparent 36292 replies644 threads Senior Member
    If it is a double, you can ask if you can swap at the semester break if one bed/desk/closet etc. is preferable to both of you. I think it would be a gracious gesture for any roommate who moves in first to offer this to the other person when they arrive -- while one roommate may not notice something about the side/space they chose before the other one arrives, it is nice to offer.
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  • muhammad9211muhammad9211 917 replies85 threads Senior Member
    You could set a date, and move in a day earlier. Or propose a game of bloody knuckles. Or just flat out brawl for it
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  • DescuffDescuff 3985 replies46 threads Senior Member
    Just ask them. For me it was just a matter of which side of the room. He kindly reply after I asked.
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  • PhantomVirgoPhantomVirgo 1051 replies37 threads Senior Member
    My roommates and I didn't communicate about it at all. It just so happened that I wanted the bottom bunk and got it, one of them wanted the top bunk and got it, and the other wanted the lofted bed and got it. We were talking about it once we were all there and realized that it worked out without us discussing it initially...so in other words, me and my roommates lucked out.
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  • SerenityJadeSerenityJade 1204 replies22 threads Senior Member
    My roomie and I want different sides. I want the left and she wants the right (from the perspective of walking into the room). So it just works out. We just have to hope her loft ends up being installed on her side so we don't have to move it. Because moving that thing would not be fun. I think it's funny because I asked her if I could have the left side and then two days later she forgot and asked me if she could have the right.
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  • 908kiddo908kiddo 234 replies32 threads Junior Member
    Get there first
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  • nauethnaueth 123 replies3 threads Junior Member
    My roommates know each other and I was talking with one when she said,"me and roomie#2 have already decided the bed's we want. Do you mind if I have the one near the window?" And I honestly I think that was a bit rude of them and pretty unfair. I thought the fairest way would be first come first served (especially since I know I would get there earlier than them since my house is a 30 minute drive away and they live in different states altogether).
    But it's honestly not worth the trouble in the beginning. I'm fine as long as I have a bed benched by a wall.
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  • Writer1992Writer1992 1054 replies18 threads Senior Member
    I was in a triple in a suite freshman year and whoever got there first, got their choice. I was second there and got the bottom bunk. There was a bunkbed and a single bed.

    We didn't discuss anything before-hand but for the girl that got the top bunk, we gave her most of the closet (if not all) because we felt bad.

    If you think it's going to be a big deal, talk about it first. I was glad I got the bottom bunk because even the single bed was too high up for me and I liked my little secluded corner.
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  • DescuffDescuff 3985 replies46 threads Senior Member
    Honestly the FAIREST way is to ask them in advance.
    Second fairest is to wait for roomie to meet up and flip a coin (2 out of 3). <-- Only nice people do this one.
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  • azcatzazcatz 85 replies4 threads Junior Member
    D's roommate doesn't want the top bunk--she is scared of rolling out. D has slept in a loft bed pretty much her whole life, so she agreed to sleep on top. I don't know how they'll do the other (they won't move in till the 18th)
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  • Flor1dagator7Flor1dagator7 146 replies0 threads Junior Member
    Naueth, you think it would be most fair for you to do first come-first serve because you live the closest and would get there first? That doesn't sound fair at all.
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  • scmom12scmom12 3247 replies21 threads Senior Member
    I say whoever gets there first if sleeping situations are pretty equal. However, in situations like top vs bottom bunk where someone might have real preference then it would be good to discuss/flip for it. I wouldn't make a big deal just for the side of room. Many times you don't know exactly how room is set up until you get there.
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  • orion12orion12 154 replies4 threads Junior Member
    I simply got there first.

    My roommate did specifically ask me to have the bed closest to the window before we moved in and I said sure but I told him I think the window is in the middle although I kind of knew it wasn't. Anyways, I was kind of a jerk I guess because I moved into the side that is closest to the window.

    In retrospect I feel a bit bad about it but he never said anything about it and I used that window sill quite a bit so...
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  • nauethnaueth 123 replies3 threads Junior Member
    @Flor1dagator tee-hee(ΦωΦ)
    Even if that weren't the case, I think not discussing it and getting it on arrival without complaints or a fuss is the easiest way to deal with it. You can't blame a person for arriving first, second, or last. Regardless of whether you are there or not they have to pick an area and start unpacking and setting up.
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  • overbyenoverbyen 111 replies1 threads Junior Member
    I've never seen my room but for some reason whenever I imagine myself in my future room I always imagine me having the bed on the left side and my roommate on the right side. I didn't think much about it until one day I realized that if my roommate got to the room first and claim the left side I would be very upset because I can't imagine being on the right side lol. So I just messaged her on Facebook asking if I could have the left side. She said yeah 'cause she doesn't really care :D
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  • CSIHSISCSIHSIS 3248 replies165 threads Senior Member
    Haha, it seems in my situation it's going to be whoever gets there first... which is me! By a week! Yeaaaa boiiiii.

    'Cept we don't know if we want to bunk or not yet.
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  • Emaheevul07Emaheevul07 5890 replies76 threads Senior Member
    I got there a day earlier and picked a side. They were different, but I thought equal and in some ways her side was better. Our room was L shaped and she had the whole bigger section to herself. Her bed was set up in the loft configuration, my parents helped me take my loft down when I moved in. I gave her the better closet. When she arrived I offered to rearrange however she wanted and/or help her unloft her bed, but she didnt change a thing. No idea if she really didnt care or if she just went with it.

    It's hard to wait until both people are there. I had a huge dorm room and my stuff still took up the whole room before it was unpacked and put away, there wouldn't have been room for both of us. Plus I was there a whole day earlier.
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  • lvvcsflvvcsf 2431 replies58 threads Senior Member
    When I went to school my roommate was 6'6", I am 5'6". He told me he wanted the bottom bunk. At first I thought that was rather unfair as it would be much easier for him to get to the top bunk than me. Later I realized that I would be able to sit up on the top bunk, he would not. It made sense then.
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