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Horrible Roommate

eXtremouseXtremous Registered User Posts: 32 Junior Member
It's the second semester of college, and I only have a month left before the semester ends, but my roommate is just TERRIBLE. It just totally ruined the "Freshman Roommate Experience," for me. What's really ironic is that, my roommate and I were incredibly close (we haven't met before, but we talked online over the summer), first semester. We would go with each other everywhere, talk about deep emotional concepts, etc. Then something happened in between the end of first semester and second semester; I'm not sure what, but we just stopped talking. It got so much worse; I'd actually be fine with just not talking with my roommate if there wasn't any tension. Our fight started when I noticed my roommate was going through a rough patch (turned out she was in a fight with her boyfriend ), so I wrote a sticky note and left it on her desk and literally said that, if she needed to talk to someone, I was here for her to talk to. I thought it was a friendly thing to do, but not to her! When she read the sticky note she stormed out of the room. I was really upset because her reaction was totally not the reaction that I expected, because I was only trying to help. So, I ripped up the note and threw the pieces out in the trashcan. A couple hours later, I'd come to realize that she TOOK the pieces of the sticky note from my trashcan. I was extremely confused at this point, because, like, what? She dug through my trash to find it... Now, during the weekend, she initiated the fight on Facebook Messenger. I thought we were going to talk about our problems face to face, but I guess not. I assumed that it was about the sticky note incident, so I was prepared to discuss that. But, nope. She told me how she absolutely hated how I never texted her back (yes, I am a bad texter, but this does not give her the right to snap back at me like this?), and how I'd always "cancel" on her 10 minutes before the event. I never cancelled on her in that small time window. Never.

Anyway, fight aside, we resolved our issues partially and we were on speaking terms again but not friendly terms. I thought we could ride it out without any other problems, but I was so, so, wrong. Her sleeping schedule is completely whacked, and recently she found this hobby of doing arts and crafts. That's totally fine. However, she would start doing them at midnight and won't finish until 5 AM and I have a 9 AM everyday. Her boyfriend literally told me that she finds "doing arts and crafts in the early morning most optimal," which really does not make any sense to me. I've told her probably 100 times this whole year that I was a light sleeper and she knows clearly that I cannot sleep when she's awake. She's incredibly inconsiderate to my sleeping schedule as well - when she gets up earlier than me, she would pull the blinds all the way and my bed is head on to the sun's rays. I suffered through this for weeks and weeks, and today, I just broke and I kindly requested that I'd like to be sleeping by 2 AM, and if she wanted to work past that, she could but just had to move somewhere else. She got so, so, so, mad. Like, horribly mad. She's also a really passive aggressive person, so when she's mad, she would slam her textbooks onto her desk and smash her keyboard keys to the point where it's extremely disruptive. When I requested our curfew be 2 AM, she wasn't even willing to talk to me, and she just said "yeah, whatever, ok," incredibly rude. Other things that really get onto my nerves - she talks to herself A LOT and bursts out laughing at the MOST UNUSUAL TIMES. I talk to myself a lot too, but this is a whole new level of talking to oneself. She also has a loud voice. She's so loud when she gets up earlier than me so I usually wake up as well, and aside from that, she talks to herself and LAUGHS when she's not even looking at anything. It's become extremely disruptive and I've been very tolerant and I haven't brought up the talking to herself problem because the most important was my sleeping schedule.

It's 1:34 AM closing in to 2 AM and I have doubts of her actually sleeping by my requested time... I personally don't know what to do, any advice, please? Because talking to her is not an option...

Replies to: Horrible Roommate

  • intparentintparent Registered User Posts: 36,025 Senior Member
    One month. Suck it up. Be out of the room a lot of it is easier. Don't engage, don't try to make up. Go your own way.

    If you must do something, engage your RA to help.
  • rvalover7rvalover7 Registered User Posts: 402 Member
    One month left as @intparent said. Not much to do now pal. Sorry. Keep talking to your RA or RC if you have one. You're almost there. I wish you luck!
  • coolweathercoolweather Registered User Posts: 5,793 Senior Member
    Don't put too much stock in your next roommate. Roommates are just people sharing your room.
  • ClassicRockerDadClassicRockerDad Registered User Posts: 6,365 Senior Member
    Talk to your RA or the housing office today. It's mid semester and there must be people who have dropped out by now for whatever reason. You should not have to live like this. Ask for a room switch immediately. You can pay professional movers on Movinghelp.com to move you in a few hours for a few hundred bucks. You could be sleeping better tonight!
  • bopperbopper Forum Champion CWRU Posts: 12,434 Forum Champion
    Right this second go to your RA and talk to them about the making noise at night issue. All the other stuff about friends and not being friends is not something the RA needs to be involved in. But not being able to sleep is. Tell them you have talked to your roommate and she still stays up all night making noise. Your RA should do something that day...(or ask when they will, which should be within hours). If they don't do anythign, talk to the housing office.

    The order should always be First talk to Roommate, then RA, then Resident Life/Housing office.

    You have the right to be able to sleep in your room during quiet hours.

    It will be good that she is on their radar because is she having difficulties? Is she sleeping? Is she going to class?
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