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I just want to share my story (half rant)


Replies to: I just want to share my story (half rant)

  • intparentintparent Registered User Posts: 36,009 Senior Member
    edited June 2017
    Don't be so literal. The OP needs to drop ECs and focus if he wants a degree and a job.
  • SpicyRamenSpicyRamen Registered User Posts: 110 Junior Member
    edited June 2017
    @intparent If too much time spent on ECs is the problem, then yes, he should drop or diminish the amount of time spent on ECs. But we don't have enough information here to know what the problem is exactly. Most likely the problem will be a combination of many things, such as (but not necessarily) ECs, stress, concentration, and study skills.

    But video gaming isn't the biggest problem here.

    Thousands of people are discriminated against because they play video games, myself included. It's the first thing that a lot of people pick on. When writing was invented, people acted in a similar way. New things are scary, but not necessarily bad.
  • SpicyRamenSpicyRamen Registered User Posts: 110 Junior Member
    Should people of colour should not protest too much, too? What about people who are discriminated against because of their different sexual orientations, their gender, their clothing choice? Video gaming isn't as important as those issues, but it's still something that a lot of people hide because they are discriminated against.

    It's okay to admit defeat or to admit that you've changed your mind on something, but it's not okay to tell people to not speak out. That's one great thing you learn in university.
  • roethlisburgerroethlisburger Registered User Posts: 2,393 Senior Member
    I think the OP only wanted to vent to begin with, and this isn't a debate society.
  • SpicyRamenSpicyRamen Registered User Posts: 110 Junior Member
    @roethlisburger I know this isn't a debate society, but you can see from earlier on in this thread that people immediately pick on video gaming as a major issue. A surprising number of people commit suicide each year due to pressures from their parents, schools, bosses, and society in general picking on them for playing video games - that's not okay. Even though this isn't a debate society, that doesn't mean that debates can't happen here.
  • MaryGJMaryGJ Registered User Posts: 807 Member
    edited June 2017
    OP is a computer science major. That few hours he spends looking at video games each week is necessary market research for his industry....and the parents who think otherwise are clueless.

    Being an overprotective over involved parent is crippling. The more you try to regulate your kid and have demands...the more likely your kid will crash and burn the minute you're not looking. Letting your kid fail and make his own decision to pick himself up and do better is important parenting. For some control freak parents...they never learn...and they end up supporting the problem kids they created.

    They're in college. They're adults. If they're not coping or making good decisions on their own....maybe it's because they were never allowed to and they're working the learning curve at a remedial pace because of your interference. LEAVE THEM ALONE. Financial support them as much as you comfortably can. Cut them off when you have to. Get a clue that you're not in change anymore. Stop infantalizing grown people and making the problem worse.
  • zannahzannah Registered User Posts: 1,088 Senior Member
    Since we don't have video cameras following you, it is really difficult to weigh in on how you distribute your time. Your parents seem to be paying for your education which means they have a right to expect you to do well in school. Maybe your difficulty is too much time playing computer games, or working in student government, sleeping, socializing or eating those donuts of time.

    Get a planner and keep track of time usage for a while to help you modify your schedule.

    Now, please understand your parents love you and have vested in your future. Computer games frustrate them, but they be ok if you were earning good grades. Playing games is a proxy for them. During college you have only one obligation and that's earning good grades. After that, your time is yours to use is at your discretion.

    You I shudder to think about how many students claim they only failed one class or term. What makes you think that failing is ever acceptable to you or your parents who have paid your freight for college. You are rightfully criticized by your parents. Don't argue. Figure out what happened and rectify the situation.
  • philbegasphilbegas Registered User Posts: 2,997 Senior Member
    @SpicyRamen LOL love your literal response :P
  • MaineLonghornMaineLonghorn Super Moderator Posts: 37,306 Super Moderator
    MODERATOR'S NOTE: No more posts about gaming. @SpicyRamen you can make a point ONCE. When you repeat it over and over again, it means you're debating.
  • transfertobmctransfertobmc Registered User Posts: 55 Junior Member
    Were your grades much better in the past? How did you fail those two classes? Student government is not a good excuse, there are plenty of students in student government who did not fail any classes. I think the best way to show your parents what they want to see is just to make sure you improve your grades next semester. It seems like you need to work on time management. Even if video games weren't the problem, there must have been something. I was in student government and working 15-20 hours a week/doing other things and never came close to failing.
    I know you're frustrated with your parents, but fighting them on this won't really help you. Learn to understand both sides: they are paying for your tuition so that you can have a good future (presumably). They are probably concerned over your failed classes and they think that you're irresponsible and therefore won't listen to your perspective. They're probably frustrated too. Prove them wrong!

    I hope you're able to settle your differences with your parents. Good luck next year!
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