I am a 19 year old guy, commuter, sophomore in a technology university as an IT major. Let me explain: In high school, I was not shy and I was not too quiet (though I am an introvert) and I did have a few friends in high school but only very very few of them were real. My hometown is full of snobs and I just had trouble cliquing and getting along with anyone in my hometown. The friends I had in high school were flaky and they never hung out with me outside of school except for grabbing pizza and then they would leave. I hated high school so much, but now I feel like I forgot about high school.
I only have one friend and he is my high school friend that I've met since I was a high school freshman. I like him as a true friend and he is really sincere, the thing that's embarrassing is that he has Asperger and I feel embarrassed that my only friend is an aspergers guy. But, he is a really sincere and you would never notice he has it. Since he is my only friend, I am glad is goes to a college in the same state as me. He is a junior now. He dorms, but his campus is not far, so last year, I drove to see him on weekends, since I never made any real friends in college freshman year. I do not have aspergers myself, yet he has had more success in making friends in college.
When I was a freshman in college last year, I really enjoyed freshman seminar class. It was my opportunity to interact with students in the class, which I did and everyone liked me in the class, because of my weird sense of humor and that makes people laugh. I am blessed that I am born with a sense of humor that truly draws attention from people to me. I felt I did not know the people long enough to form a friendship. I also met one guy at freshman orientation and we clicked instantly and I had him in a class, but I felt I did not know him well and long enough to exchange numbers, mainly because he skipped class a lot. Last year, I befriended this junior 25 year old guy in my science lab class. We only befriended each other for advice and we never see each other outside of school, because he is in the military, working full time outside of school, blah blah blah.
I've join clubs last year such as Computing club, Robotics, Student Activities Council. I had a chance of talking to this guy from robotics club and becoming friends with him, because it was too late at the end of the year for the club to order the robotic parts to make our robot.
This year, I've joined the band alongside with continuing my other clubs, because I play an instrument. People there seem very nice and I feel that will be my best chance to interact with people.
I find it hard to make friends with people in my classes, unless I am doing group work (my school lacks that, and group work teaches students communication skills). My classes are lecture heavy and lacks the teaching of communication skills (group work). My friend said he made friends through his classes. He is in a frat (which I would never want to pay for), but he doesn't have any friends from his frat. It seems like an academic setting is the best for him.
Every time the weather gets nice on my campus, I feel sad, because I see people happy by hanging out with their friends and I wish I were there enjoying the weather. Last year, I've gotten some weekends where I had no flock of homework. I am tired of spending my Friday nights or weekends sitting on my computer doing research on my life and its problem about not having friends.
It's really embarrassing that all summer before and after freshman year, I would sit home a lot unless my brother invited me out with his friends. I am embarrassed and worried about what my parents think of me.