I am a rising junior this year, but my parents have already established to me that they are going to move to college with me wherever I go (I live in the Midwest, but most of the schools I want to go to are in the East Coast). The background behind this is that we are a tight-knit family (and I am an only child), so they feel that it's important for me to be able to see them whenever I want and for them to help me with chores and stuff when I am studying/doing college stuff. They told me that I can live on campus, but they want to live very close to the university I go to. Basically, they're telling me they'll give me independence but will still want to be close to me.
However, I want to experience college life alone. I want to move college on my own and live fully independently. I feel like if my parents live 20-30 minutes away from the university, I'll be obligated to meet them regardless of the situation. I feel like this pulls away from the actual experience of "discovering" yourself and becoming a person separate from your parents. I think if my parents live right next to me, I will be forced to be the way they want me to be and not really become my own person. They told me they won't "control" me at all, but I don't understand how this experience is anything close to living far away and in a new place. In my opinion, college is a time for the CHILD to move somewhere new and experience life on their own, not to make it a complete family upheaval.
I've tried talking to them about why I want to do this, but they always say that what I'm saying doesn't make sense and that I have to understand that they are trying to "help" me. However, I don't want that help, I want to live life fully independently. It's not like all the other college students are failing to get these tasks done, right?
I want to talk to them about this one more time and tell them that doing this will make my college experience less enjoyable, but I need to be able to answer the inevitable "why" question. Could you all give me a perspective on this and help me concretely answer the "why"?
Thanks in advance!