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Taking a break from college..


Replies to: Taking a break from college..

  • Midwest67Midwest67 Registered User Posts: 2,500 Senior Member

    What a gift to your mother and to yourself (to have been at her side)! Please be patient and kind to yourself. Time will heal the rawest emotions.

    Please consider seeking the help of a skilled therapist to help you get thru the rough patches.

    If you need us, we're here for you too.
  • MelissavyMelissavy Registered User Posts: 9 New Member
    Thank you so much for your kind words. It means a lot.
  • bjkmombjkmom Registered User Posts: 7,525 Senior Member
    Our sincere sympathies on the loss of your mom Melissa.

    And I know she's looking down on you, so proud of the way you've handled all this.
  • NorthernMom61NorthernMom61 Registered User Posts: 3,958 Senior Member
    Wish I could give you a hug for your mom @Melissavy.
  • collegemom3717collegemom3717 Registered User Posts: 5,820 Senior Member
    edited November 2018
    One more mom coming on to say I'm so sorry for your loss, @Melissavy.

    Be prepared for it to take longer to feel like yourself than you expect and for there to be horrible moments when the grief just washes over you or stabs you out of nowhere. It really does get better, and it happens less frequently with time, Imo you are never really 'over it', but it does get better, but try to put some systems in place to help you through the rough spots. Make sure that you have a proxy mom or two (one of my proxy kids has at least 3 proxy moms, who each fulfill different roles for her).

    Think through what you want from this holiday season - some people like to do something completely different, others want it to be as close to 'normal' as possible. There is no right or wrong way- follow what feels right for you.

    And also: notice how puny some challenges look now, compared to the colossal loss of your mother. You can do this, and if you can do this, really, you can do almost anything.

    Sending a massive virtual hug your way.
  • HowardGradlyHowardGradly Registered User Posts: 139 Junior Member
    Yes. Hugs to you Melissa. I am sorry for your loss. What a special time you had with her. She is blessed to have had u. And thank you for checking back in.
  • 3girls3cats3girls3cats Registered User Posts: 1,931 Senior Member
    I'm so sorry for your loss. Sending you a virtual hug and I only wish it could be real.
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