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What should I do if I have a small crush in college?

OneWhoTalksOneWhoTalks Registered User Posts: 18 Junior Member
edited October 5 in College Life
She gave me her number and her Snapchat. What should I say to gauge her interest? Should I just ask about her hobbies?
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Replies to: What should I do if I have a small crush in college?

  • momofsenior1momofsenior1 Registered User Posts: 3,312 Senior Member
    Text her an invite her for tea/coffee. It can even be in the dining hall.
  • bopperbopper Forum Champion CWRU Posts: 11,939 Forum Champion
    My advice is always to not come on too strong. If she is one of your classes, ask her about a homework problem. Maybe get a group of people to go to a campus event and invite her. Watch her snapchat to see what she shows she is interested in.
  • OneWhoTalksOneWhoTalks Registered User Posts: 18 Junior Member
    We only have a lecture together, so the homework thing is not really an option. It’s for Honors English and we don’t get hw until the discussion section, which we don’t share. That should provide some more context.
  • NorthernMom61NorthernMom61 Registered User Posts: 3,827 Senior Member
    Be a good friend first. Be kind, be honest, be reliable. Enjoy the crush, it’s an exciting feeling that doesn’t happen everyday. Be brave, invite her for coffee or ice cream. Relax, have fun.
  • EmpireappleEmpireapple Registered User Posts: 1,125 Senior Member
    Today "kids" just start talking/communicating back and forth on their phones. It's very common to have a snapchat streak where you keep it going everyday. Like the others have said, ask her to do something. Will you see her around campus....just talk. Walk together. Let things evolve to hanging out. Have fun with it! Enjoy this time in your life.
  • PublisherPublisher Registered User Posts: 4,543 Senior Member
    Just be yourself & be willing to listen.

    As for what NOT to do, do not ask for her ring size.
  • eb23282eb23282 Registered User Posts: 272 Junior Member
    If she gave you her number and snapchat she's open to getting together. See if she wants to grab breakfast before class, lunch after class, coffee between classes. Ask her to go hiking, go the movies, visit a local museum, etc.
  • OneWhoTalksOneWhoTalks Registered User Posts: 18 Junior Member
    Do you recommend I ask to hang out over Snapchat or in person?
  • My CupcakeMy Cupcake Registered User Posts: 38 Junior Member
    offer to get her a coffee sometime or grab one WITH her. 99.9% of all college students need caffeine at least a couplee times a week to keep them going…
  • suraydavusuraydavu Registered User Posts: 17 Junior Member
    ask her for lunch
  • NorthernMom61NorthernMom61 Registered User Posts: 3,827 Senior Member
    Be brave, face to face!
  • eb23282eb23282 Registered User Posts: 272 Junior Member
    If you can, seek her out before your lecture and say "hey [crush], would you like to go grab a coffee after class?".
  • rickle1rickle1 Registered User Posts: 1,266 Senior Member
    When I first read this thread I thought you were kidding. However, recently I watched an interesting documentary that tracked college students and young professionals on dating behaviors and this professor at BC determined that this whole generation doesn't know "how" to date. Social media, texting, etc has changes so many things. It was amazing to watch these kids admit they found it easier (less stressful) to "hook up" with a random person than actually have a face to face conversation in a date like environment. SO much so that the prof taught a course on how to date, with appropriate behavior, etiquette, assignments (like asking someone out in person for a real date and going on that date).

    Hard to believe we've come to that, but we have.

    Be brave. It will take getting out of your comfort zone. But trust me, when He/she says "yes" it will be the greatest feeling you've ever had (more so than the random "hook up").

    Good luck!
  • OneWhoTalksOneWhoTalks Registered User Posts: 18 Junior Member
    She’s going with some friends (girls and guys mix) to a movie. I’ll ask if I can tag along. Does that seem like a good plan? Thankfully I don’t have tests this Friday.
  • rickle1rickle1 Registered User Posts: 1,266 Senior Member
    I would ask her out to coffee or lunch or a movie as a proper date, not as a tag along. You don't want to be just "one of the guys". That would be fine later if you were dating and were just going out as a group but it makes it sound more like you're truing to become part of the group vs. taking her out. Easy to misinterpret that.

    Who knows, maybe she's hoping you'll ask her out.

    Be brave and do it.
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