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Not going to A&M was the biggest mistake of my life

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Replies to: Not going to A&M was the biggest mistake of my life

  • TQfromtheUTQfromtheU Registered User Posts: 1,491 Senior Member
    edited May 6
    UH and Houston are fine and there are plenty of young single women interested in being asked out by an employed young man interest in marriage. A church singles' group is ideal. Pick a large church near you, go and do the activities. Just meet people and have fun while you build your career and see who in the group clicks with you as relationship you might want to pursue. Go to young UH alumni events too so that you have a good chance of meeting a fellow Coog you can tailgate with. Show up and be friendly. Positivity is a magnet.

    BTW - I know and work with Aggies who did not get married right out of college, married later, are not married yet, or are now divorced for what every reason. A&M doesn't have lock on marriage opportunities.

    Edit - regarding the need for a job. Contact the UH Career Center for guidance and help. Have you considered teaching or jobs in the energy industry?
  • tpike12tpike12 Registered User Posts: 440 Member
    Improve yourself first.

    1) Lift weights - buy some good clothes, present the most attractive you
    2) Get a job and learn new skills
    3) Take up or expand on some interesting hobbies

    Then meet girls.
  • woodlandsmomwoodlandsmom Registered User Posts: 415 Member
    edited May 6
    @tpike12 exactly. Since I am the mom of 3 guys...I can say that they have never got how important khaki shorts and a button up shirt with the sleeves rolled up are compared to a ratty pair of slicky underarmor shorts. I think lifting weights makes guys feel more self-confident. (I am not a guy but they all feel that way) When my middle son was little he said he hope to meet a girl one day that had a pony tail and liked math. :) As an aside, I know a lot of neat Christian girls who are never asked out on a date. The problem right now is that we have a "hook-up" generation. Force yourself to ask a girl for a cup of coffee or to go to a baseball game. Ask her if she would like to spend the day at the beach or the lake. Take it casually so you get to see if a person is a good fit. I would also state that large Christian churches usually have a lot of singles groups that do neat service or mission work. (like Second Baptist in Houston with Star of Hope mission) If you like "you" then you will seem more confident and attractive.
  • murray93murray93 Registered User Posts: 110 Junior Member
    Join a Crossfit box. Then you can get fit and meet women. I live in a tiny town and even here, that seems to be where the young people like to meet each other!
  • TrueDanielTrueDaniel Registered User Posts: 4 New Member
    To be honest, I’m a bit insecure about what I’m doing which is why I haven’t been on CC in years. People can brag about being overachievers in this site and it gets to you (even if they’re lying). The good news is that this summer I did get an offer to be a lead counselor for a Christian summer camp. I’ll be leading a group of counselors and have authority over camp activities.

    I’m not shooting my expectations too high, but if the job goes great, I might end up with a strong LOR and LinkedIn endorsements for the statistical projects that I’m working on. It’s a camp with 250 staff members (mostly college students) so I’m bound to have a healthy alumni network for both work and church life when I’m finished.

    If it helps, my previous work experience was a call center team manager for a bank which didn’t pay a lot but I learned some financial responsibility and also not to spend like a “millennial”. Cut down fast food, no unneeded subscriptions, etc. That stuff simulates responsible independent living. I think the baseline for dating is that I need to make enough money to live on my own, give or take, considering personality, looks, friend circle, etc.

    @Momof3B They’re pretty conservative compared to suburbs of most other states, if I’m basing it on last year election, though urban areas, generally, have been gradually shifting leftwards.

    Long post, and I know I came off emotional when I created the thread so I apologize for that. I’ll be having ample free time during my summer tenure doing the type of summer job at 25 which is what 21 year olds do, so my side-hustle will be networking in person and online. My major was math with a minor in finance (should’ve said that earlier!) so if y’all have ideas on connecting for financial ops, I’d like to know since I’m very proficient in that and had a 3.3 GPA in all my undergrad Econ and finance classes.

    Tl;dr I have a summer opportunity to sharpen and prove managerial traits that will affirm my qualifications for an entry level career which can supplement good grades for that subject.
  • PurpleTitanPurpleTitan Registered User Posts: 12,600 Senior Member
    1. Lift weights.
    2. Lose weight some how. Maybe intermittent fasting. If not 15 hours in 24, 12 hours in 24.
    3.Get a female friend your age (or sister or male friend's sister or female cousin; someone with 2 X chromosomes) who knows how to dress to go shopping with you and buy the clothes she picks out.
    4. Be really chill and move slowly when you meet girls. The chiller the better. Opposite of spazzy/emotional.
  • bjscheelbjscheel Registered User Posts: 441 Member
    That sounds great! Will there be any female counselors your age at camp? My daughter and two nephews worked at church camp last summer and that place was a relationship incubator! Together all the time...Plus you know anyone there will have the same beliefs as you. Regardless of the dating, my daughter and the others found working at camp to be a fantastic experience and it sounds like it will be a good move for you too.
  • TQfromtheUTQfromtheU Registered User Posts: 1,491 Senior Member
    If you are still interested in banking, look at the local RMA events and classes, particularly the young professionals events and classes.
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