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Second Semester and Feeling Completely Lost

MitchvMitchv 0 replies1 threads New Member
I am a current freshman at JMU and not loving it. It was my safety school and I ended up getting rejected by all seven of my other choices. I hoped it would get better, but honestly I feel miserable. My parents have told me to join more activities and try to be more open to the school and I have, but I dont think it's gotten me anywhere. I have thought about transfering, but dont know if that's the right choice. I worry that it's not the right choice. Somedays I feel overwhelmed with work and dont know if I could handle a more challenging school, other days I feel trapped without any opportunities for growth and networking. I think most of all I worry what will happen if I get rejected again. Where am I supposed to be? What am I supposed to do with my life? I feel like I'm always wasting time.
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  • HPuck35HPuck35 2049 replies15 threads Senior Member
    OK, you didn't get into the college that you really wanted. But you did get into your safety. Stop thinking about transfering.

    Don't let the dissapointment of not getting into your prefered college define your life from here on out. Make the most of what you can control, which is your performance at the college you are at. Show your professors how good you are. Do well and then the doors of whatever career you want will open wider. Don't do well and those same doors will close and then where will you be.

    Be that likeable person that others will be attracted to. Enjoy your college experience. You'll feel a lot better if you change your attitude.
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  • SarripSarrip 473 replies22 threads Member
    Im so sorry that you feel this way. What kinds of things are making you feel miserable? Or are you constantly thinking about the rejections (i really hate that word) they should use 'declined or denied'. When you chose this school as a safety did you choose a school with many of the things that you really wanted in a school? A safety should be a school that you think you could be happy at not a school that you feel is beneath you. Sometimes when we are occupied helping others it can take redirect our energy. Perhaps talking to professors or office staff about any help that they may need. Community service club activities can also help. Your emotions can effect how you feel about your school work which can be why you feel overwhelmed at times. I would advise you to go to your advisor or the counseling office and let someone know how you are feeling so that they can help you come up with a plan. Saying a little prayer that everything will work out. I know it can.
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  • LindagafLindagaf 9918 replies538 threads Senior Member
    edited January 24
    Please read this.
    https://talk.collegeconfidential.com/college-life/2016222-to-those-who-feel-lonely-homesick-friendless-think-they-chose-the-wrong-school-etc-p1.html

    I get the sense that part of your feelings have to do with a sense of failure for not getting into reachier schools. You’re in college, and that’s an achievement in itself.

    College is still new. It takes time. And I personally think that if you are feeling overwhelmed with work, transferring isn’t going to help you. JMU admitted you because they felt you could succeed there. If you transfer, you have to start from scratch socially. Another college may not take your credits. Take advantage of prof office hours, free tutoring on campus, study groups, and extra help. Go to academic advising too, so that you can make sure you are on track or explore options for majors.

    College is what you make of it. There are plenty of opportunities at JMU, and it’s your job to find them. Get involved with a volunteer group or a campus religious group, where people are perhaps more open. Get a campus job, where you will interact with others regularly. I think you will be fine if you can be proactive and make efforts to get the most out of college. Don’t dwell on the places you didn’t get into. They aren’t part of your life.
    edited January 24
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