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Verbally Abusive Roommate?

Kyarbro6270Kyarbro6270 2 replies3 threads New Member
I'll try to keep this as short as possible.

So one of my roommates has been verbally abusing at me and my other two roommates.

Example: Yells in our face, Say's were "little pieces of S****", and a whole bunch other stuff.

We have filed a communications threat against her and have had to call the cops once because she got up in my roommates face, screamed at her, followed her to her room, and banged on the door for her to open up.

We all live in a student apartment and we have talked to the leasing office about getting her out or us out. Their response basically was "we only have one other room available for someone to move into and you can't break nor get out of your leases." They also said they cant make her move if she doesn't want too.


we each has individual leases so one of us can move to the other building but that means me and my other roommate are still with her

I don't know what to do. We don't feel safe in our own apartment and the leasing office won't help.
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  • doschicosdoschicos 25964 replies258 threads Senior Member
    Is this housing connected to your college at all or is it something you found on your own?
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  • Kyarbro6270Kyarbro6270 2 replies3 threads New Member
    @doschicos Thats the thing I can't really tell. They are listed on our University Website for off-campus housing and on the Apartments website they say that they are student housing but then they let people who are not students live there for a higher rate.
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  • doschicosdoschicos 25964 replies258 threads Senior Member
    Go to your campus housing office and see what they say/can do.
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  • Kyarbro6270Kyarbro6270 2 replies3 threads New Member
    @doschicos I will defiantly try that tomorrow! I just feel like its not apart of the University its just sponsored by them. Anymore advice?
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  • brantlybrantly 4118 replies72 threads Senior Member
    @doschicos Thats the thing I can't really tell. They are listed on our University Website for off-campus housing and on the Apartments website they say that they are student housing but then they let people who are not students live there for a higher rate.

    This sounds like off-campus, non-university housing. You mentioned a leasing office. I assume you pay monthly rent to the building -- your rent is not paid directly to the university through its billing portal. "Student housing" doesn't mean it is university housing. It just means it's a building designed for and marketed to students.

    Is the abusive roommate a student at your school? If so, go to the Dean of Students office for advice. In addition, document every abusive behavior. You may need it to get a restraining order. In the meantime, you need to WRITE a letter to the management office with details about her abusive behavior and say that your next step is a restraining order. Also ... look at your lease. There must be terms that specify what is expected of tenants. She may be in violation of the lease if she is abusive to other tenants in her apartment. Point that out in the letter to the management office.
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  • EmpireappleEmpireapple 2084 replies27 threads Senior Member
    I agree it sounds as if you are in off campus housing. Study your lease to see if she is breaking anything in it. If she is, go to the landlord with that information. Otherwise your only avenue is going to be the legal route. Document what has happened so far and what continues to happen.

    Most likely by the time something can be done legally the semester will be over.

    Good luck and hopefully this won't escalate.
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