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Does your college roommate have overnight guests?

sushisushi Registered User Posts: 256 Junior Member
edited March 2007 in College Life
My D's current favorite school has some strict residential life policies. No weekday guests, period, freshman year. To have a weekend guest you have to attend a workshop (!!?).

She is thinking ahead to when her boyfriend plans to visit her in the fall (we won't go into how statistically he will no longer be her boyfriend by then). I was thinking, even if the dorm policies aren't as they are, having an overnight guest, especially one of the opposite sex, is kind of disrespectful to your roommate (in a standard double room). The room is too small for even two people, they have twin beds so boyfriend would need to sleep on the floor, roommate wouldn't feel comfortable changing or lounging in her own room when he's there.

I don't recall many of us having overnight guests when I was in school, even though I went to a wild and crazy university. How about you?
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Replies to: Does your college roommate have overnight guests?

  • Cronus88Cronus88 Registered User Posts: 244 Junior Member
    idk. ive had a friend over who spent the night already. my dormroom is really small too. and next friday two friends are going to be coming down, and spending the night. i have no idea how thats going to work out. lol

    but i dont think its disrespectful. im going to be respectful as i can to my roomate within the boundaries of still living my life the way i want to. im not gonna tell my friends not to come visit me just cuz i think my roomie might be slighty uncomfortable.

    oh. and i dont think there are any policies at all at my school. if there are, i dont kno about them...
  • apumicapumic Registered User Posts: 1,529 Senior Member
    I am at a private, Christian university and our overnight guest policy is as follows:

    1) Overnight guests may stay for a maximum of 3 nights each semester (consecutive or non-consecutive) per guest per room
    2) No opposite-sex guests may be in any room overnight or after visitation hours as per the student code of conduct
    3) Any student requesting an exemption from the first point must request permission in advance from both their roommate *and* their RA and/or RD (no exemptions to point 2 are granted for any reason--students are to find a willing friend to host an opposite sex friend)
    4) Any guest is to be accompanied by someone with a key to that residential room if they are in the room (i.e., no non-APU student may be in an APU dorm room without being accompanied by the student who has been assigned that room)
    5) All overnight guests should be okayed (informally) by the student's roommate (i.e., be courteous toward your roommate)

    Obviously, these policies are broken from time to time, but students generally stay fairly close to these policies.
  • zebeszebes Registered User Posts: 1,326 Senior Member
    A friend of ours just found out her daughter's roommate has been having her boyfriend stay over quite a bit. And, he's not staying on the floor. Her daughter didn't want to say anything to the roommate because she didn't want her life to be miserable in her dorm, where her roommate's quite popular. Apparently, the boy has a room in the dorm, too ... he just stays with the girlfriend. When Mom found out, she hit the roof. Now, her D will be moving out of her room into a condo. The dorm had no restrictions on overnight guests, left totally up to the discretion of suite mates. Puts the dissenting suite mate in a rough spot ...

    BTW, this was the honors dorm at the university.

  • laserprecisionlaserprecision Registered User Posts: 497 Member
    "have twin beds so boyfriend would need to sleep on the floor"


    anyways when I was in the dorms, my roomie and i would have someone else sleeping over a few times a week. We were both chill about it since we both did it but I can see how it might get on someone's nerves.
  • kayrliskayrlis Registered User Posts: 268 Junior Member
    my roomie and I have had overnight guests a couple times, mostly girls. They slept on the floor and it was fine.
    Once she had a guy friend stay over and it wasn't awkward. I mean, I don't hang around my roomie in my underwear, so I didn't have to change my behavior (except for changing into my pjs in my closet).

    But with a boyfriend, it's different. I would consider thinking about this again when your daughter has met her roommate. It might be more comfortable for the roomie to sleep in someone else's room for that night, even if nothing happens... Hopefully her roomie would understand...
  • oxioxi Registered User Posts: 153 Junior Member
    I don't mind at all when my roommate's girl sleeps over. (In the bed, btw, twin beds is definitely not a reason to sleep on a floor.) Also, one of my best friends' roommate also has his gf sleep there pretty much every night. Doesn't bother him. I guess it's different for guys though. Plus, we get along with our roommates' significant others. Might be annoying if they were weird or disrespectful.
  • evil_asian_dictatorevil_asian_dictator - Posts: 2,306 Senior Member
    How else can you have mindblowing sex on a daily basis? Cheers.
  • firewalkerfirewalker - Posts: 2,409 Senior Member
    Of course we do.
  • gemstar66gemstar66 Registered User Posts: 766 Member
    twin beds so boyfriend would need to sleep on the floor


    I have nothing else to add but that
  • punkdudeuspunkdudeus . Posts: 1,226 Senior Member
    bring a sleeping bag to college, if you ever need to sexile a roomate, just stick it outside the door with a pillow, if he doesn't get the hint,...he's an idiot
  • frostburg2010frostburg2010 Registered User Posts: 648 Member
    My roomie's bf came for a weekend in the fall. It wasn't too weird, but I thought it would be. Our beds were bunked last semester, and they shared her top bunk, not doing anything. I wasn't worried about it either, because they both have their heads straight on their shoulders and have enough self-control and respect for me to not do anything that weekend. I didn't really worry about it, but it did cross my mind that while I was sleeping, there were only four poles that bunked the beds that prevented 250-275 lbs of people from falling on me, lol. They were hardly around that weekened, actually, because she was showing him the campus, the town, and the surrounding mountainous area. It wasn't bad at all, but not all couples may be like this when visiting their significant other who has a roommate.
  • bruinboybruinboy Registered User Posts: 1,448 Senior Member
    if your D's bf is gonna sleep the night at anytime during the semester, she needs to talk about it at the beginning of the semester with her roommate and talk about what they will do to compromise in these situations.
  • Worried StudentWorried Student Registered User Posts: 780 Member
    The room is too small for even two people, they have twin beds so boyfriend would need to sleep on the floor, roommate wouldn't feel comfortable changing or lounging in her own room when he's there.
    lol....he definitely won't be sleeping on the floor. Why do you think he's coming to visit?

    Last year, my roommate's girlfriend came over for 2 nights. I left the place for about 4 hours one of the nights to give them some "alone time". I was very considerate and so were they. No problems occurred, but I'm a pretty easy going guy. By the way, I changed in front his girlfriend, so I don't think that would be a problem either.
  • 'tisthetruth'tisthetruth . Posts: 865 Member
    In the middle of the night, I awoke to my roommate and his girlfriend humping each other like bunnies.
  • TrebleThespianTrebleThespian Registered User Posts: 71 Junior Member
    Last semester my roommate had her boyfriend here 2-3 nights a week, every single week. all semester. SO ANNOYING! I slept on the couch most of the time (we have apartment-style dorms, so it's not nearly as bad as normal dorms, but definitely still annoying). She moved out to transfer to his school, and now i have the apartment to myself :)
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