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Girls dating older men

nba7girlnba7girl Registered User Posts: 35 New Member
edited June 2007 in College Life
What is the maximum age difference for a relationship to be able to work?
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Replies to: Girls dating older men

  • runforfun529runforfun529 Registered User Posts: 2,135 Member
    It really depends on the age of the people in general. A 16 year old dating a 10 year old seems a little strange. A 46 year old dating a 40 year old, however, is not a big deal.

    For college age (I'm assuming) I'd say anything bigger than a 21 or 22 year old dating an 18 year old would probably only end in some bad situations. But, remember, there are some that luck out and make it work.
  • nba7girlnba7girl Registered User Posts: 35 New Member
    What exactly makes the relationship end bad? Different places in life or what?
  • SilverCloverSilverClover Registered User Posts: 709 Member
    Well, personally, I'm 19 and dating a 27 year old. I don't see this as being too huge of a deal though I can see how others would think it's crazy. It works for me because we both understand that our lives are going in different directions within the next few years so we don't see ourselves as a serious, long term commitment.

    The key is not to look at every relationship as something serious and long term- especially if dating an older guy. Just going on dates is fun and if you both are comfortable and are enjoying yourselves, then why let the age difference bother you? In my case, the guy I'm dating (not sure if I'd be comfortable calling him my boyfriend yet) and I have similar interests and hobbies that are not normal for either of our age groups, so it works.
  • namastenamaste Registered User Posts: 3,027 Senior Member
    If you're college age just dont' go above 30, then you're into sugar daddy territory
  • EmmelineEmmeline Registered User Posts: 2,734 Senior Member
    on namaste... where do i begin? ;)
  • stressed0utstressed0ut Registered User Posts: 1,370 Senior Member
    so what if you've got a sugar daddy fetish?

    My moral is.. if you're dating just for fun, anything goes.

    Just becareful to not fall in love with an older guy.. guys who are 5+ years older than the girls tend to not take them seriously. (of course, there are rare, special cases where they actually do fall in love)
  • jaso9n2jaso9n2 Registered User Posts: 856 Member
    I'd say over ten years is pushing it.
  • CollegeFreshCollegeFresh Registered User Posts: 112 Junior Member
    College age I see 24-18 in the middle and 26-18 being a max.

    I can't really see 10+ years unless you're both out of school and situated..
  • JrockJrock Registered User Posts: 1,289 Senior Member
    Why this question, in the first place?
  • steeveesteevee Registered User Posts: 828 Member
    Exactly 20 years. Anything beyond that, even by a day, will not work out.
  • BedHeadBedHead Registered User Posts: 2,730 Senior Member
    hey, I've posted on your other thread too. One thing: there is nothing wrong with dating a guy much older than you. I get the sense that is what this is about, though I am still guessing. I had a relationship with a woman who was (of legal dating age) and shockingly close to half my age, and we had a GREAT time and have remained good friends. Just protect yourself, 'cause chances are the guy figures that it's just for fun. His thought process might be: "I'll be close to diapers when she's in her prime physically. This has no long-term potential and that must be obvious to her." That's basically what I thought. But for about a year -- long distance-- it was great.

    I had a girlfriend who dated a guy with about the same age difference as the example above when she was in college. She ended up wanting to marry him. Had he been into it, I think it could've worked.
  • nba7girlnba7girl Registered User Posts: 35 New Member
    thanks for your help everybody.

    BedHead: I sent you a PM
  • BigredmedBigredmed Registered User Posts: 3,731 Senior Member
    The official formula is

    older person's age/2 + 7 = minimum age they're allowed to date.

    So if you're 20, (20/2 = 10 + 7 = 17)

    While some people may have personal preferences that force the minimum higher (ie myself, who at 24 won't date anyone younger than 21, even though the formula says 19 is okay), it's a decent guideline once the older person is 17...
  • AUlostchickAUlostchick Registered User Posts: 1,818 Senior Member
    As an 18 year old, I couldn't see myself dating anyone older than 24, and that's most definitely pushing it. A 26-year-old hit on me last year not know I was 17 at the time, and then when we figured out each other's ages it was just like, "eurgh...*slinks away*" for both of us. My ex will be 22 in July, about 2 months before I turn 19, and although the age difference wasn't what separated us, it played a part in our relationship. It's the whole life experience thing.... when you're with someone who has significantly more than you (and 3 years is significant before age 25), they have a tendency to do the "I know better because I've been around longer" thing, usually not intentionally, but it happens.
  • UNLVChic10'UNLVChic10' Registered User Posts: 106 Junior Member
    I prefer older men because I feel they know more and they're much more wiser! I can't stand dating younger men because they're a bit too immature for my taste :(
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