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Cliques in College?

GetOuttaBuffaloGetOuttaBuffalo 678 replies172 threadsRegistered User Member
edited July 2007 in College Life
I was wondering the other day.... are there cliques in college like there is in high school? My hs in particular is pretty cliquey...but I'm the type of person who was never in a clique..I just had random friends.

Anyone out there who goes to a big university -- do u mainly stay in your group of friends or do u hang out with whoever?

Seems like this would be an interesting topic....
edited July 2007
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  • AUlostchickAUlostchick 1794 replies24 threadsRegistered User Senior Member
    Of course, everyone has their own group of friends but pretty much everyone I know is happy to talk to new people except some Greek people. The Greeks tend to stay in their own little immediate circle most of the time, in my experience. I have met lots of people through friends and friends of friends, it's fun.
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  • Cards4LifeCards4Life 1175 replies36 threadsRegistered User Senior Member
    I have a group of really close friends...but we all hang out with other people also. I hang out with students from my first major, my current major, completely unrelated majors, the clubs that I'm in, and people I've met randomly at parties throughout the year.

    The Greeks at my school are very active and proud of their organization but they're also very outgoing towards other people. I was a freshman in this past year and a lot of people I met were Greek--but I didn't know they were Greek until a few weeks after we met.
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  • ilikeorangesilikeoranges 624 replies43 threadsRegistered User Member
    So far in my experience, some Greek people are very outgoing, some are very cliqueish.
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  • jaso9n2jaso9n2 785 replies71 threadsRegistered User Member
    Well, yes and no. When you go to state uni's, a lot of people are there only to hang out with their friends. A lot of them were friends in high school. They may make friends that are just like their friends in high school, but most of the time state uni kids are cliquey.

    I think you'd have to look to some of the private universities for open-minded kids. Those tend to be harder to get into. You're basically going to school with kids like you if you go to school at your state's university.
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  • protonproton 948 replies73 threadsRegistered User Senior Member
    it won't be as intense as when you were in high school
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  • ephrhymeswbeefephrhymeswbeef 218 replies1 threadsRegistered User Junior Member
    Yeah... at least for my school at least, its halls (neighbors), teams, random people. Dunno if that helps.
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  • UNLVChic10'UNLVChic10' 99 replies7 threadsRegistered User Junior Member
    Depends, if you commute to college then you'll hang out with your old friends. But in college, the people that you were friends with in high school go their own seperate ways! You'll find you niche and if you need any advice feel free to ask me :)!
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  • ceeceeceecee 626 replies22 threadsRegistered User Member
    I personally hang out with whoever. Some people can be really clique-y though. You meet all types. Enough people are willing to meet new people so you aren't lonely.
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  • GetOuttaBuffaloGetOuttaBuffalo 678 replies172 threadsRegistered User Member
    Okay... I'll rephrase my question a bit...

    What is your personal experience? Do you part-take in a clique? Do you go with the flow? What do other people seem to do?

    Also, please specify the *type* of school you go to, if you aren't comfortable saying the actual name. Community colleges and regular state universities are different in that social aspect than what I had in mind - larger, well known publics.
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  • PseudonymPseudonym 647 replies2 threadsRegistered User Member
    jaso9n2, maybe it's that way at some state universities, but definitely not all by any means. I go to a decent sized state school (~15,000 undergrads) and while I suppose there are some people here who stick with their high school friends, a) it's a small minority, and b) a lot of the people who start out sticking with the people they knew in high school branch out after a semester or so.

    You definitely don't need to go to a private school to find "open-minded kids." My friends are a very heterogenous group, and I met them in a variety of places... I've got friends from classes, friends from school organizations I'm involved with, friends from when I went abroad, and lots of people I met randomly or met through other friends. I definitely have a group of people I hang out with a lot by default, who all know one another and like to go out together, cook meals together, watch movies, etc. fairly frequently, but we all have friends from other places too and the cast of people is always changing.
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  • AUlostchickAUlostchick 1794 replies24 threadsRegistered User Senior Member
    I go to a medium-large state school (~24,000 students). I really don't think it's very clique-y here, and although I'm only 1/2 hour away from home, I only hang out with my best friend from high school anymore. All my other friends are from all over the place, lots of different states and countries. I met alot of them through my ex-boyfriend who was Honduran, b/c he knew alot of other international students. But I have friends from swing dancing (my really good friends), from organizations I'm in, people that were friends of friends, people just met randomly at parties, etc.
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  • LilyMoonLilyMoon 1762 replies70 threadsRegistered User Senior Member
    I think most kids tend to hang out with kids on their floor. Other than that, it's kids you meet in class or any clubs/organizations you join or someone you get to know because they are friends with someone else you know.
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  • InquilineKeaInquilineKea 1796 replies513 threads- Senior Member
    yeah ppl tend to be more likely to meet ppl like them - in hs people often befriended people of vastly different interests. also friendships in college tend to be more interest-based than in grade school. Oftentimes all the smart people of vastly diverse interests in grade school would hang out.

    i was always a loner who hanged out with internet friends :p in other words i didn't hang out with anyone in school. now i just hang out with one person i met on cc
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  • firewalkerfirewalker 2375 replies34 threads- Senior Member
    Funny, I met someone on CC and now he's one of my few friends too. More power to us.
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  • BigredmedBigredmed 3726 replies26 threadsRegistered User Senior Member
    I think it's important to realize that in college people hang out with their friends but it's not like HS where you've got "the sportos, the motorheads, geeks, sluts, bloods, waistoids, dweebies, dickheads" running around in recognizable groups and you can't talk to people outside of those groups for fear of losing face. I know it might seem like a surprise but people really do grow up some when they get to college.
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  • silverpebblesilverpebble 302 replies7 threadsBounce Email Group Junior Member
    I agree with bigred - people do have groups of friends because that's human nature and a good thing. But after high school friendships are based much less on style, looks, etc. In college you're often friends with people in your dorm hall and in you major/classes, for the obvious reason that you get to know these people best.
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