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Fraternities/Sororities: To join or not to join

yesnomaybeso7yesnomaybeso7 Registered User Posts: 179 Junior Member
edited June 2008 in College Life
Hi, I've heard so many mixed comments about greek life and it's effect on a students experience. Do greeks actually do community service or is it more of an elite social group. Pros and cons?
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Replies to: Fraternities/Sororities: To join or not to join

  • EasyEasy - Posts: 678 Member
    Neither. At many schools, fraternity's are just a random sample of average guys. Far from elite.
  • Son of OpieSon of Opie Registered User Posts: 1,200 Member
    Depends on the school. I loved the guys in my chapter, but I wouldn't have joined a chapter of my fraternity at some of the other schools in the area. The greek system is typically a microcosm of the whole campus.

    My advice: Rush is usually free and, at least for males, not a hugely structured event. Go and check it out; what's the most you have to lose? An evening where you'd be watching tv and a dinner at the dining hall? Check it out, make your decision there, not before you come in. Ask questions. If you care about community service, talk to the chapter's chair. And then talk to other people. Basically, do your research, and make an educated decision.
  • GexGex Registered User Posts: 81 Junior Member
    Will you also go to school in the north or south? Some campuses are virtually dominated by greek life while greek life in other campuses are only a very tiny portion of campus.
  • erhswimmingerhswimming Registered User Posts: 1,207 Senior Member
    Definitely spend the time to rush if you are even remotely considering Greek life. You'll have nothing to lose, and even if you don't join you got a free week of food and fun, and will have met plenty of new people.

    My school's rush is structured differently in that we have to wait a semester after we get here, then when we do rush the first night we have to visit all five fraternities on our campus. I had plans to join either one of two, but I joined one completely different from what I had planned on. I'm really glad I did. You'll develop such a different bond with your pledge brothers than you will with anyone else, and the rest of your brothers for that matter.

    As far as community service, the events/projects we had this past semester were Bowl-a-thon, Relay for Life, a book drive, a blood drive, and Laps for Life. This next semester, our community service chair is trying to set us and another sorority up to help out with Habitat for Humanity, and we are all genuinely excited about that.

    I'm not sure what kind of school you're going to, but at my school the Greek life is certainly not elitist. But I know it's not that way everywhere. I was talking to some of my friends who went to State U., and when I said that I could freely go between parties at different fraternities at my small LAC, they were confused since the fraternity/sorority they join is the only one they can really hang out with since there really is no mixing.
  • EasyEasy - Posts: 678 Member
    whether tis nobler in the mind to suffer
    the slings and arrows of hazing and being told what to do
    or to take arms against a potentially boring social life
  • dieseldiesel Registered User Posts: 866 Member
    i'll be honest, for "some" chapters, any community service(or anything really) is done for public relations.

    being able to put out info that potentials(or more so, their parents; and further your campus and international) that says something like "we rasied $25,000 to help *insert philanthropy here*" can't do anything but help during recruitment. a lot of shady dealings happen behind closed doors...
  • Son of OpieSon of Opie Registered User Posts: 1,200 Member
    What fraternity are you in, Easy?
  • tnguyen08tnguyen08 Registered User Posts: 339 Member
    Rush is usually free for frats? Are they usually free for sororities too? Cuz they send me an invite to rush, but I have to pay like $155 to actually attend.

    If it were free, I would go. Since it's not, and I'm not really interested, I'm not going.
  • OKgirlOKgirl Registered User Posts: 2,134 Senior Member
    I've thought about joining, but wouldn't be be kinda pointless since my school doesn't have any houses for them or anything? I'd also only be able to be there for around a year.
  • Son of OpieSon of Opie Registered User Posts: 1,200 Member
    The sororities at my college didn't have houses, so they'd rent a ballroom downtown or elsewhere when they wanted to have social functions.
  • EasyEasy - Posts: 678 Member
    I'm not in a frat.
  • chuychuy Registered User Posts: 3,916 Senior Member
    $155 to attend a rush is absurd. Think about what the membership fees must be.

    Rush parties are fun to try and get a feel for greek life and get some free food/beer. If you find one you like try and get to know a couple people that are in it (preferably people who just went through rush) and see if you can get a feel for just how bad that is. Some frats don't haze at all, others... do. I didn't end up joining one just because of a lack of time but there were one or two that I really think I would have fit in and had a good time at. A lot of my friends pledged and nobody seems to regret it. Some do more service than others, it's going to vary based on school/frat.
  • chintzychintzy Registered User Posts: 604 Member
    My D is kind of shy at first. Do you think joining a sorority would be a good way for her to meet people and have a group of friends to hang out with or do you think the whole rush process would be difficult for her? She's not like Unibomber/loner shy, just not an extrovert.
  • EasyEasy - Posts: 678 Member
    What school does your daughter go to? Be wary, a lot of sororities are just assemblages of girls who are looking to validate themselves.
  • dank08dank08 Registered User Posts: 1,768 Senior Member
    Why pay for friends?
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