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comparing myself to others

thermo1thermo1 Registered User Posts: 264 Junior Member
edited October 2008 in College Life
So i'd say that I'm a pretty competative guy.

I usually do pretty well in school and I find myself trying to do better than others in my class. However, this can get tiring as well as depressing. A few others have gotten better grades as well as internships with seemingly less effort.

So what should i do? I don't think comparing myself to them and getting depressed is very healthy but i just can't help it sometimes. :(
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Replies to: comparing myself to others

  • randomgrandeurrandomgrandeur Registered User Posts: 671 Member
    You need to get over it and focus on what you want to do because guess what? Those people who you constantly compare yourself to aren't thinking about you.
  • lollybolollybo Registered User Posts: 776 Member
    Get over it man. There will always be someone better than you, especially in college where thousands of brilliant, motivated kids get together.

    A lot of it is luck of the draw. People are too different to compare them against each other. Be happy with yourself, and you will find internal peace.
  • DuperDuper - Posts: 1,125 Senior Member
    Mommy lied; you aren't the smartest, funniest, most popular boy in school. Save yourself the trouble and realize this early.
  • meadow36meadow36 Registered User Posts: 5,620 Senior Member
    Personally, I find nothing wrong with comparing yourself to others. In my case it often lead to self-improvement. But don't take it too seriously. If your not the best use this as a motivation to work harder the next time. And harder. In the end your result will be that you worked up to your potential and should feel much more satisfying than simply doing better than someone else.
    Although I know it can be frustrating at times.when people who put inmuch less effort get ahead. But so is life.
  • feuerwerkefeuerwerke Registered User Posts: 408 Member
    dude, i'm not saying this just to be different from the other ppl who've replied to this thread, ok.. so i'm not going to say 'just get over it'. why? because i have the same gd problem. i am not going into this whole college thing w/something that my parents told me (my parents indeed never did tell me 'oh you're so smart/funny/etc'). i'm going into it -knowing- myself. i KNOW that i'm really competitive and i enjoy being around other smart, successful ppl (like meadow said, it can be incentive for self improvement).

    BUT, at the same time, it can be really sad to not feel good about what you've done because so many other ppl did it better. i feel ya. totally.

    so anyways, yeah, i don't know what to tell you.. or else i'd've helped myself too. sorry. i was especially feeling like that this weekend, for some reason. some days are def better than others. and when it gets down to that, i guess i just tell myself that i'm having fun here in college and that i'm learning in so many other ways and getting so much life experience. haha, sometimes if it gets really bad, i just think about how many other cool things/experiences i was having while 'perfect A' student was sitting in their room studying.

    :) have a good day! keep this thread going if only for the fact that it completely relates to me and my sanity!!!! :p
  • yeoldstudentyeoldstudent Registered User Posts: 93 Junior Member
    So I think comparing yourself to others can be good and bad. Some of the most successful people are extremely competitive, however, you have to understand what you really want for yourself. You can't always base success on being better than others.

    Oh, and in college I was always frustrated with the people who put in no effort and did better than me. However, most of those people didn't become successful later in life. Once they got into the real world, they didn't know how to work hard, so they didn't rise through the ranks. Keep your chin up and keep working hard. It will pay off.
  • bcmcgheebcmcghee Registered User Posts: 62 Junior Member
    i have the same prolbem. i love competition, i believe everyone does to a certain degree.
  • Russell7Russell7 - Posts: 1,414 Senior Member
    If you ain't first, you're last. Tough luck OP.
  • blue147blue147 Registered User Posts: 502 Member

    Not necessarily true, Russell7. He could be second or third.

    To the OP: comparing yourself to others is a healthy thing, only if you take it with a grain of salt and recognize your weaknesses and strengths. Like another poster said, use it as self-improvement, but don't lose sleep over it. Once you realize your limits, stretch them to a degree in which your comfortable and take it one step at a time. Good luck OP.
  • DuperDuper - Posts: 1,125 Senior Member
    Second place is the first place loser.
  • blue147blue147 Registered User Posts: 502 Member
    ^ yep (10char).
  • Russell7Russell7 - Posts: 1,414 Senior Member
    Not necessarily true, Russell7. He could be second or third.

    What? I've lived my whole life by that!
  • lollybolollybo Registered User Posts: 776 Member
    Be first in everything you do. Study extremely hard to beat your peers by one or two points. Grub every grade you can, come out on top in everything. Win every game of poker you play (provided you have spare time to begin with). Be first in every sport you play, and if you are not the president of a club, you might as well quit. Pour your heart and soul into being successful- after all, it gives you the most satisfaction in life.

    When you graduate, find the best job that you can. Find the perfect trophy wife- she has to be beautiful and have at least a bachelor's degree. Don't marry the girl you studied with, your new friends at work look down on her. Buy a good car, it has to be sporty and a recent model. Buy a house in a nice, gated neighborhood with green lawns and a country club. Stick up to your boss, maybe someday you will be take his place. You still have to pay off all your debt from college and the mortgage on your new house, but you will be fine and dandy with your high paying job. Nothing could go wrong.

    It's been ten years. Your car is now superseded by new newer models; newer models that your friends are quick to pick up. You sell your car and buy a new one, but realized the value of your car depreciated. Your neighborhood falls in prestige, housing values drop. Unacceptable. You move out into a new neighborhood. You realize your wife is getting uglier as she ages, leave her and find a new, better one.

    The cycle continues. Jeez, why can't people breathe a little.
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